"It's offensive," Toney said. "It continues a negative stereotype.""I'm perceived to be aggressive, assertive, attitude-having ... a lot of things, because my complexion is darker," said the 24-year-old receptionist.
The party was canceled last week after its promoter, who is black, received dozens of complaints. But for Toney and other black women, the issue reopened old, deep wounds as word of the party spread through the Internet.
How black women are viewed - and treat each other - depending on the hue of their skin, eye color, and the length and grade of their hair has long been a point of contention for many in the black community.
Many women with lighter skin frequently are accused of believing they are better than those with darker complexions. Many women with brown or dark-brown complexions complain that they too often are not treated as well socially or professionally as those with fairer skin.
"I think they get to slide in a little easier," Toney, who is pursuing a master's degree in counseling, said of women with lighter skin. "They are assumed to be passive and nice and sweet. I feel I have to do a little bit more. Number one, I'm black. Number two, I'm dark and I have short hair."
Promoter: 'I thought it was brilliant'
Ulysses Barnes, who goes by the name DJ Lish, says he canceled his "Light Skinned Women & ALL LIBRA's" promotion after complaints rolled in from women, activists and organizations across the country.
"I thought it was a brilliant promotion at the time," said Barnes, who has spent the last several days apologizing to people. "I didn't anticipate any type of feedback. It was just a party thing."
Barnes, 27, canceled future "sexy chocolate" and "sexy caramel" promotions and just wants the controversy to go away.
But Detroit author and anti-racism advocate Elizabeth Atkins believes it's time for open, effective dialogue on how black women truly see and interact with one another.
"The celebrated standard of black beauty have been the Lena Hornes of the world," said Atkins, referring to the fair-skinned singer and actress who became one of the most popular black performers in the 1940s and 1950s. "It's been the fair-skinned, straighter hair, bigger eyes and pointed nose."
Horne got her start as a dancer in the famous Cotton Club in Harlem. Most dancers at the nightclub in its early years had light or fair complexions.
Activist: Media feeds into stereotypes
Atkins and Los Angeles author and women's movement activist Pearl Jr. say media portrayals of black women feed into the stereotypes that are perpetuated by blacks.
Women who should be embracing their shared racial and cultural heritage instead harbor suspicion and resentment, Atkins said.
"They might be talking about flowers, or the weather or a wedding," she said, "but in the back of their minds they're thinking: 'She's looking at my dark skin or kinky hair.' Whereas the lighter-skinned woman is thinking: 'She's looking at my skin, or she's looking at my eyes and my hair, and making all kinds of assumptions of how much easier I must have it."'
Study: Skin color may affect hiring
There may be something to that perception.
A 2006 study by University of Georgia doctoral candidate Matthew Harrison shows skin color may play a role in hiring. Psychology undergraduates, most of whom were white, were given fake photos and resumes to make hiring recommendations.
Lighter-skinned women applicants were preferred over those with darker complexions but equal credentials. Light-skinned black men also were preferred over those with dark skin who had better credentials.
Such thinking is rooted in America's slavery past, Harrison says. Lighter-skinned children of slaves and their owners were given better treatment and less strenuous household chores than darker slaves who toiled in the fields.
"That created a lot of animosity among slaves and began to replicate itself even after slavery," Harrison said. "Once blacks were able to have their own groups, they too adhered to the whole system of lightness being better."
One of the ways they did so was the "brown paper bag" test, in which blacks whose skin was darker than the bag's color were denied inclusion into social events or organizations.
Not 'black' enough?
But lighter-skinned black women also complain they at times are accused of not being "black" enough.
Tamika Franklin, who works with Toney, says she was taunted as "white girl" by other black children. The 30-year-old administrative assistant has very fair skin, freckles and reddish-brown hair. She says whites appear to be more accepting of her than blacks.
"I'm closer to their shade, so they're a little more comfortable with that," Franklin said.
That's because whites set the standard for what is considered attractive and acceptable, Pearl Jr. said.
"I believe they think the lighter you are and the straighter your hair, the more you resemble them and the better you are," she said. "We have been taught as African-Americans to be less African, less dark."
The issue is central to "Other People's Skin," four novellas released this month and co-authored by Atkins and three other black women. The fictional work looks at discrimination that results from "colorism" in the black community.
Atkins has a fair complexion and long, light brown hair. Her mother is black and father is white.
"People have mimicked me to my face ... that I talk white or proper," said Atkins, who earned a master's degree at Columbia University. "An ex-boyfriend told me I should talk more black and go to a tanning salon to get darker. Another man told me I should dye my hair brown if I wanted to do business with black people.
"We often face hatred within the race, and it's more hurtful from your own people than the mainstream."
Black Spin will continue to address this controversial issue until it has been resolved and stamped out once and for all ...


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By: Just a Thought on 10/23/2007 9:25PM
The media must be bored.
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By: Love Yourself on 10/23/2007 9:37PM
Light, Medium, Dark, White, Brown...beauty really shines from the inside out. I've been around the most "beautiful" people you can imagine looking at, but once they open their mouths and the words come out, they become ugly. Queen Latifa (sp?), in my opinion, is one of the most beautiful women in the world. She holds her head high, she's proud of who she is, she has a sense of humor, and she keeps moving forward and being the best she can be. That's what I call a beautiful woman. If someone doesn't think you are okay the way you, then you don't need them around you. Surround yourself with positive supportive people and be proud of who you are, no matter what the outside looks like, shine from the inside.
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By: Lisa on 10/23/2007 10:56PM
Growing up as a child into my adulthood years I hated my dark skin because of the constant teasing and shunning I had to endure. so much so that I found myself hating my own people. I never had this problem with people of other races just mine. I am older now so I can deal with it better. but a part of me still has resentment toward my people. I know I will get some negative comments beacuse of my comments, but you cannot judge me until you walk in my shoes.
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By: Jessica on 10/23/2007 11:05PM
Well, from the perspective of a very dark skinned sister with locs, I have to say that I find that lighter skinned sisters are treated better. They get preference with everything, especially in situations of love. This is because to most Black men, if you are not “high-yellow” with straight hair and/or a weave, you are not “attractive enough.” In fact, now at the age of 23, I am more likely to be asked out on a date or even complemented on my beautiful skin and hair by a Latino and White man before a brother. I went through alot as a child when it came to teasing and disrespect. I was called a "tar baby", "black ass", etc. And most of the time, fellow light skinned sisters would laugh at such insults and act with a sense of "I am superior to you." My mother is an Afro-Caribbean woman who believed and still believes that darker skin is superior and would say in her Caribbean accent, "Na listen to dem. Dem na know their roots." It got to the point where in my later years of high school through college, I wouldn't even respond to a lighter skinned sister who said "hello." I am NOW beginning the healing process and hope to someday feel comfortable with accepting lighter-skinned sisters as friends.
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By: Ipress on 10/23/2007 11:53PM
Ironically, in my family, dark skinned is favored. Probably because my mother is dark skinned, with skin as beautiful as dark chocolate. And she is the oldest sister, and took care of everyone else. My family line goes from dark chocolate to dayum near white with red hair and freckles.....LOL Talk about the rainbow coalition!
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By: LIA on 10/24/2007 12:44AM
Speaking as a light skinned sista I've never felt special treatment because of my complexion. Growing up, I was picked on and ostracised by my darker skinned "friends" and other kids in the neighborhood.
Now I really don't care what people think. Either accept me as I am or keep steppin. There is so much going on in the world right now that is much more important than a person's complexion, and it's a shame that precious time is wasted on black on black discrimination.
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By: Anthony on 10/24/2007 5:57AM
RoXann, Lisa, and other ladies,
I feel you on all of this crap. I also want to say that not only the guy who promoted this racial tension should be sued, but that all the light skinned women who were prepping themselves to go to the club should be ashamed as well. True to facts: We are all the same on the inside whereas only the heart can feel anything, (sigh) and we are different outside where we feel more pain in many areas. But i say this to everyone who doesn't like this tension among the races. "Pray because we can't change people no matter how much you try, but prayer reaches the hearts."
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By: shamica jones on 10/24/2007 6:52AM
its sad that the willie lintch massacre still lives on in our commmunity today.I GUESS HE WAS WRIGHT
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By: Justice on 10/24/2007 7:13AM
I must be an exception to the rule! No favors have come to me for being a butterscotch sista! Where is the beef? Let me in on some! Treat me like the queen that I am! THANK YOU! Funds are needed to pursue my Ph.D.!
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By: valerie hester on 10/24/2007 9:23AM
I am a light skinned sista with hazel green eyes and really dark skinned men treat me like a queen. I was the firts in my family to get married and I retain 9 degrees so far but on 11/29/07 when i complete this property management at the college I will have 10. I am the only light skinned green eyes girl out of 6 of my mom's children and really my siblings are jealous of me because not only am i light skinned but men view me as the brains in my family i do not have children when they had to have their children to hold on to men. you know men will do anything i ask them to they volunteer to buy me gifts like jewelry cars, etc. I am not dating now because i want to finish my studies but my cell does blow off the hook i hate to dis these men. but for my dark skinned sistas don't hate because it hinders your progress, self esteem and your relationships. being a light skinned sista dark skinned women are very jealous of me and i know for a fact that my dark skinned sister cassandra is. you know i am tired of this. I had to go to the EEOC on 2 different men and obtained my right to sue for both for sexual harassment. sometimes being light skinned is a headache. men just want to bother distract and do things for us with no problem. so dark skinned sistas don't be mad because like i said being light skinned is not always easy.
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