"It's offensive," Toney said. "It continues a negative stereotype.""I'm perceived to be aggressive, assertive, attitude-having ... a lot of things, because my complexion is darker," said the 24-year-old receptionist.
The party was canceled last week after its promoter, who is black, received dozens of complaints. But for Toney and other black women, the issue reopened old, deep wounds as word of the party spread through the Internet.
How black women are viewed - and treat each other - depending on the hue of their skin, eye color, and the length and grade of their hair has long been a point of contention for many in the black community.
Many women with lighter skin frequently are accused of believing they are better than those with darker complexions. Many women with brown or dark-brown complexions complain that they too often are not treated as well socially or professionally as those with fairer skin.
"I think they get to slide in a little easier," Toney, who is pursuing a master's degree in counseling, said of women with lighter skin. "They are assumed to be passive and nice and sweet. I feel I have to do a little bit more. Number one, I'm black. Number two, I'm dark and I have short hair."
Promoter: 'I thought it was brilliant'
Ulysses Barnes, who goes by the name DJ Lish, says he canceled his "Light Skinned Women & ALL LIBRA's" promotion after complaints rolled in from women, activists and organizations across the country.
"I thought it was a brilliant promotion at the time," said Barnes, who has spent the last several days apologizing to people. "I didn't anticipate any type of feedback. It was just a party thing."
Barnes, 27, canceled future "sexy chocolate" and "sexy caramel" promotions and just wants the controversy to go away.
But Detroit author and anti-racism advocate Elizabeth Atkins believes it's time for open, effective dialogue on how black women truly see and interact with one another.
"The celebrated standard of black beauty have been the Lena Hornes of the world," said Atkins, referring to the fair-skinned singer and actress who became one of the most popular black performers in the 1940s and 1950s. "It's been the fair-skinned, straighter hair, bigger eyes and pointed nose."
Horne got her start as a dancer in the famous Cotton Club in Harlem. Most dancers at the nightclub in its early years had light or fair complexions.
Activist: Media feeds into stereotypes
Atkins and Los Angeles author and women's movement activist Pearl Jr. say media portrayals of black women feed into the stereotypes that are perpetuated by blacks.
Women who should be embracing their shared racial and cultural heritage instead harbor suspicion and resentment, Atkins said.
"They might be talking about flowers, or the weather or a wedding," she said, "but in the back of their minds they're thinking: 'She's looking at my dark skin or kinky hair.' Whereas the lighter-skinned woman is thinking: 'She's looking at my skin, or she's looking at my eyes and my hair, and making all kinds of assumptions of how much easier I must have it."'
Study: Skin color may affect hiring
There may be something to that perception.
A 2006 study by University of Georgia doctoral candidate Matthew Harrison shows skin color may play a role in hiring. Psychology undergraduates, most of whom were white, were given fake photos and resumes to make hiring recommendations.
Lighter-skinned women applicants were preferred over those with darker complexions but equal credentials. Light-skinned black men also were preferred over those with dark skin who had better credentials.
Such thinking is rooted in America's slavery past, Harrison says. Lighter-skinned children of slaves and their owners were given better treatment and less strenuous household chores than darker slaves who toiled in the fields.
"That created a lot of animosity among slaves and began to replicate itself even after slavery," Harrison said. "Once blacks were able to have their own groups, they too adhered to the whole system of lightness being better."
One of the ways they did so was the "brown paper bag" test, in which blacks whose skin was darker than the bag's color were denied inclusion into social events or organizations.
Not 'black' enough?
But lighter-skinned black women also complain they at times are accused of not being "black" enough.
Tamika Franklin, who works with Toney, says she was taunted as "white girl" by other black children. The 30-year-old administrative assistant has very fair skin, freckles and reddish-brown hair. She says whites appear to be more accepting of her than blacks.
"I'm closer to their shade, so they're a little more comfortable with that," Franklin said.
That's because whites set the standard for what is considered attractive and acceptable, Pearl Jr. said.
"I believe they think the lighter you are and the straighter your hair, the more you resemble them and the better you are," she said. "We have been taught as African-Americans to be less African, less dark."
The issue is central to "Other People's Skin," four novellas released this month and co-authored by Atkins and three other black women. The fictional work looks at discrimination that results from "colorism" in the black community.
Atkins has a fair complexion and long, light brown hair. Her mother is black and father is white.
"People have mimicked me to my face ... that I talk white or proper," said Atkins, who earned a master's degree at Columbia University. "An ex-boyfriend told me I should talk more black and go to a tanning salon to get darker. Another man told me I should dye my hair brown if I wanted to do business with black people.
"We often face hatred within the race, and it's more hurtful from your own people than the mainstream."
Black Spin will continue to address this controversial issue until it has been resolved and stamped out once and for all ...


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By: Bridget Feaster on 10/26/2007 9:53PM
History may play a part in the way minds or trained to think, and thoughts becoming actions. Listen my sisters. White, Black, Chinese, who ever, it's not history, and nor is it the shade of skin. It is the heart which the actions come from. Defeat the generational curse and ask the Lord to purify your hearts. Not only will you be able to withstand, but he will change you and your children's way to thinking. Peace!
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By: Teddy Wright on 10/26/2007 10:54PM
Remember this " the darker the berry, the sweeter the juice". I remerber how folks treated my sisters.One very fair skined and the other very dark. I loved them both the same.But my older darker sister felt hurt by all the attention given to my other sister(because of her complection). So to cheer her up we all(even the lighter sister) would say to her "the darker the berry the sweeter the juice". And she was!
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By: Kelley on 10/26/2007 11:40PM
Where i live if you black you black it dont matter if your light or dark skinned ...helll yo ass is black.and im dark skinned
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By: martinblack on 10/27/2007 12:57AM
this is y we cant even over come within our own race. dont even try to blame the white man, when we cant get our sh$t 2gether. that club should be boycotted. where is al sharpton and jesse jackson when u need them.
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By: Peace on 10/27/2007 10:03PM
Everyone... every women, every man... all people of all faiths and all races must find a way to embrace each other's differences, and search for compromise and a way to co-exist. The alternative is an unthinkable future for our children…
http://www.peace.org/
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By: Sheila on 10/27/2007 10:14PM
Mayweb at 3:15AM on Oct 27th 2007
I think the radio station you speak of is as bad as some of the radio stations our own are listening to. They telling us to boycott spending from white people, and telling us a lot of things that spread hate.
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By: Wisdom on 10/30/2007 12:44PM
"The reason you're 'here' is not to be good, to be better, to be perfect, to get 'stuff' done, to save the world, to save a person, to prove something, or to be anything... other than YOURSELF. That's all you have to work on. That's all you can do. And by doing it... all those other things will happen anyway."
Mike Dooley
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By: Antoine Brumfield on 11/02/2007 12:55PM
My mother was a very light skin black woman. That grew up as a young woman in the south in the 50's. Many black people thought she was very beautiful, as they did for many light skinned blacks back then all the way up threw the mid 80's, when Rap and multi media became more available. Back then dark skin blacks were discriminated against from there own black counter parts and whites. But in talking to many of my friends that are very dark, they say they still get discriminated against to this day. But on the other hand I have light skin friends that say they get equal discrimination. My own daughter is a light skinned young black lady and she gets more discrimination from black students at her high school than white students. White people can be a headache, but I have found that black people are in many cases our own worst enemy.
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By: Antoine Brumfield on 11/05/2007 6:06PM
My mother was a very light skin black woman. That grew up as a young woman in the south in the 50's. Many black people thought she was very beautiful, as they did for many light skinned blacks back then all the way up threw the mid 80's, when Rap and multi media became more available. Back then dark skin blacks were discriminated against from there own black counter parts and whites. But in talking to many of my friends that are very dark, they say they still get discriminated against to this day. But on the other hand I have light skin friends that say they get equal discrimination. My own daughter is a light skinned young black lady and she gets more discrimination from black students at her high school than white students. White people can be a headache, but I have found that black people are in many cases our own worst enemy.
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By: Anthony Sokunbi-Walton on 12/15/2007 10:32PM
Hey!!! Light Skin, Dark Skin, Caramel/ Toffee, Coffee Skin heck! Its all irrelevant and we know it; everyone wants to be identified with some colonial master or the other. Thats where all this comes from; I think it is silly to even have a forum like this... I only can imagine what HALF CAST Ooops! Sorry! Mixed race kids feel. The darker the berry the sweeter the juice, so they say and thats not to say the creamier the coffee the richer the smoothness (Think deep on that one) lol!!! Women are lovely in all shades lets celebrate our difference - For a change (Wink) Anthony Sokunbi-Walton www.mosspictures.net PS: What will you say about caucasians toasting themselves in the sun only to look like a carrot (Darker) I think it goes to show that DARK IS SEXY... And that not in the literal sense of it, They'll be lucky if cancer of the skin is not introduced in the process - Just thinking!
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