"It's offensive," Toney said. "It continues a negative stereotype.""I'm perceived to be aggressive, assertive, attitude-having ... a lot of things, because my complexion is darker," said the 24-year-old receptionist.
The party was canceled last week after its promoter, who is black, received dozens of complaints. But for Toney and other black women, the issue reopened old, deep wounds as word of the party spread through the Internet.
How black women are viewed - and treat each other - depending on the hue of their skin, eye color, and the length and grade of their hair has long been a point of contention for many in the black community.
Many women with lighter skin frequently are accused of believing they are better than those with darker complexions. Many women with brown or dark-brown complexions complain that they too often are not treated as well socially or professionally as those with fairer skin.
"I think they get to slide in a little easier," Toney, who is pursuing a master's degree in counseling, said of women with lighter skin. "They are assumed to be passive and nice and sweet. I feel I have to do a little bit more. Number one, I'm black. Number two, I'm dark and I have short hair."
Promoter: 'I thought it was brilliant'
Ulysses Barnes, who goes by the name DJ Lish, says he canceled his "Light Skinned Women & ALL LIBRA's" promotion after complaints rolled in from women, activists and organizations across the country.
"I thought it was a brilliant promotion at the time," said Barnes, who has spent the last several days apologizing to people. "I didn't anticipate any type of feedback. It was just a party thing."
Barnes, 27, canceled future "sexy chocolate" and "sexy caramel" promotions and just wants the controversy to go away.
But Detroit author and anti-racism advocate Elizabeth Atkins believes it's time for open, effective dialogue on how black women truly see and interact with one another.
"The celebrated standard of black beauty have been the Lena Hornes of the world," said Atkins, referring to the fair-skinned singer and actress who became one of the most popular black performers in the 1940s and 1950s. "It's been the fair-skinned, straighter hair, bigger eyes and pointed nose."
Horne got her start as a dancer in the famous Cotton Club in Harlem. Most dancers at the nightclub in its early years had light or fair complexions.
Activist: Media feeds into stereotypes
Atkins and Los Angeles author and women's movement activist Pearl Jr. say media portrayals of black women feed into the stereotypes that are perpetuated by blacks.
Women who should be embracing their shared racial and cultural heritage instead harbor suspicion and resentment, Atkins said.
"They might be talking about flowers, or the weather or a wedding," she said, "but in the back of their minds they're thinking: 'She's looking at my dark skin or kinky hair.' Whereas the lighter-skinned woman is thinking: 'She's looking at my skin, or she's looking at my eyes and my hair, and making all kinds of assumptions of how much easier I must have it."'
Study: Skin color may affect hiring
There may be something to that perception.
A 2006 study by University of Georgia doctoral candidate Matthew Harrison shows skin color may play a role in hiring. Psychology undergraduates, most of whom were white, were given fake photos and resumes to make hiring recommendations.
Lighter-skinned women applicants were preferred over those with darker complexions but equal credentials. Light-skinned black men also were preferred over those with dark skin who had better credentials.
Such thinking is rooted in America's slavery past, Harrison says. Lighter-skinned children of slaves and their owners were given better treatment and less strenuous household chores than darker slaves who toiled in the fields.
"That created a lot of animosity among slaves and began to replicate itself even after slavery," Harrison said. "Once blacks were able to have their own groups, they too adhered to the whole system of lightness being better."
One of the ways they did so was the "brown paper bag" test, in which blacks whose skin was darker than the bag's color were denied inclusion into social events or organizations.
Not 'black' enough?
But lighter-skinned black women also complain they at times are accused of not being "black" enough.
Tamika Franklin, who works with Toney, says she was taunted as "white girl" by other black children. The 30-year-old administrative assistant has very fair skin, freckles and reddish-brown hair. She says whites appear to be more accepting of her than blacks.
"I'm closer to their shade, so they're a little more comfortable with that," Franklin said.
That's because whites set the standard for what is considered attractive and acceptable, Pearl Jr. said.
"I believe they think the lighter you are and the straighter your hair, the more you resemble them and the better you are," she said. "We have been taught as African-Americans to be less African, less dark."
The issue is central to "Other People's Skin," four novellas released this month and co-authored by Atkins and three other black women. The fictional work looks at discrimination that results from "colorism" in the black community.
Atkins has a fair complexion and long, light brown hair. Her mother is black and father is white.
"People have mimicked me to my face ... that I talk white or proper," said Atkins, who earned a master's degree at Columbia University. "An ex-boyfriend told me I should talk more black and go to a tanning salon to get darker. Another man told me I should dye my hair brown if I wanted to do business with black people.
"We often face hatred within the race, and it's more hurtful from your own people than the mainstream."
Black Spin will continue to address this controversial issue until it has been resolved and stamped out once and for all ...


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By: MJ on 10/24/2007 8:32AM
I remember when one of my cousins was only a few weeks old and she was on my late grandmothers lap and she said of the baby, "she is so light", "I wonder why her brother is so dark?" Both of the babies parents were light skinned and her brother was brown skinned, but in my grandmothers eyes he should have been light too.
She was mixed herself with Native American blood. I have been told by many when I was very young oh she is so cute to be dark skinned...these type of negative things will not cease...why? because the mentality is embeded in the black mind that if you are light then you are right and if dark then you don't make the grade it's being passed down.
And if you're not contributing to the nonsense don't worry some ignorant person will be...like the promotor of that club in Detroit from the article that started this discussion.
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By: April on 10/24/2007 8:42AM
MANY, light skinned people think they are better than darker blacks because society has made it seem that way. They are victims in a way...because if you tell someone something over and over again they will problably start to believe it.
Show me a person with naturally curly hair that doesn't think they have "good hair". They may say I don't think my hair is good, but they are lying because if they have been told this since they were a small child they at the very least beleive they hair stands out and is different in a good way.
My pastor teached on this subject on Sunday. Whatever word is associated with us after a while we will live by.
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By: nikki on 10/24/2007 8:45AM
I am dark skinned but I love it. I know that a light skinned women whom is also petite would be chosen over me any day because in society's eyes that is what beauty is. That is the trophy. In videos that is all you see. It is every now and then that you see a sexy chocolate sista in a video, and when she is they oil her all up like her dark skin is just nayurally beautiful. I love who I am and to all those who think lighter is better that is cool but just remember god made all of us different for a reason. If we as black people would stop hating on one another and come together it would be beautiful. Our race is the best and is sacred. We come in all different shapes and sizes. But what other race of people come in different shades?????? We are so busy trying to pull each other down and destroy each other instead of loving on each other. Light or Dark there is beauty in every one and there are men out there who prefer us chocolate sistas. what is the next best thing to sex? CHOCOLATE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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By: Denise on 10/24/2007 8:48AM
This is all so true. We as a black race need to stop this. We all have those family members that believe that if your light your better. This all stems back to slavery. If we hate amongst one another how do we change the way that white american perceives us? We must acknowledge the problem exist before we can change the way we are perceived. This change must take place in our own race first. This just comfirms that our race has not made any improvements since it became illegal to own s human being. Rascism is alive! No they don't phyiscally linch anymore, they keep us sgainst each other, they don't hire us, They linch us by limiting our education, not make books , teachers available to us in certain communities. By plaguing our communities with drugs, liquor stores on every corner, no community center for our children to go to play safely, no parks that don't have beer bottles, drug paraphernelia on the grounds and condoms, etc. Having babies as teenagers, no fathers in the home. This terrible drug war most communities are experiencing.....We most heal first and begin to change this negative attitude of ourselves.
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By: Tara on 10/24/2007 8:50AM
The Damn club dont allow all-night free admission to black women with black skin? Many black women are still popular with wealthy and succesful men at http://www.richromances.com. They are sexy and beautiful
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By: Jada on 10/24/2007 9:04AM
I am a dark skinned woman also. I just feel it's sad to be discriminated and seperated in our race. I was always told "you're pretty to be dark skinned", implying that all or most dark skinned people are ugly. That hurt especially coming from other black people. I had to accept myself for who I am and what I look like. As far as employment I feel like I have to be 100% better than the white girls and light skinned girls. I have to work and charm people to get positions alot. I have 3 chocolate beautiful girls and I want them to love themselves and always see the beauty in themselves and others and never judge people because of their color.
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By: V. L. J. on 10/24/2007 9:17AM
Yes or No answers to the question, do you think black women with light skin are discriminated against as much as those with dark skin is unfair without an explanation. I think that light skin women are more discriminated by women of color. Dark skin women are discriminated not only by people of their own race but also by whites. Darker skin women have it much harder in our society as was pointed out in the article.
I was called names like black jack and spook juice as a young teen by my peers and even last month I was asked by a black sister, do I think I will cut my locks and go back to regular straight hair (what is inside of you still does not count). It is sad but a fact of life still in 2007.
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By: Reggie on 10/24/2007 9:11AM
Well this is a flash from the pass. I grow up in the 60's we black people came together and understood we were all Black. We fought the good fight to win many of our rights. We loved each other Angala Davids, Nina Samonn, Rosa Parks, Betty Shabazz, Fanny Lou and the list goes on and on. Question; what about dark skin men are they not as fine as light skin brothers? Why not? We are all beautiful because we come in all colors
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By: Angie on 10/24/2007 9:14AM
Well I have to add my two cents to this piece, because I sat and read everyone's comment and some I agree with and other's I don't. I must start by saying proudly that I am a sista with a dark hue. But as a child and well into my mid 20's my shade was a problem for me, men treated me horrible. I have heard comments such as "dark-skinned girls are all right to take home at night but not be seen with in public". I even had a guy who also was dark tell me that "he couldn't believe that he was falling in love with me because he never even considered dating someone dark". Needless to say I dumped him ASAP! I also wanted to address some of the statments that were made about the titles "Black" or "African American". Personally I don't like either. I prefer to call US "people of color". The word black is associated with everything negative but the contast the word "white" is associated with everything positive so I don't call people of European decent white. Now that I'm in my mid 30's I love who I am and the color of my skin. I still run across some idiot guys that make comments about my skin tone, but now I don't entertain them AT ALL. They are immediately put in there place. To all the women that have been through or are going through what I have, always remember that you deserve the best and don't settle for nothing less.
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By: jaymi on 10/24/2007 9:28AM
sooo stupid! black is black and that's all there is to it!!
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