So you've got a bunch of teenaged girls in a small Massachusetts town who allegedly made a pact to get knocked up and people are alarmed about "babies having babies" and the "moral fabric of our society." Yo, get a grip. These aren't the first teenage girls to get knocked up and they won't be the last. Now, word is, there was NEVER a pact at all.
In fact, why in hell is this all over every Web site and TV talk show, anyway? I've lived in neighborhoods where 16-year-old pregnant girls were the norm, not the exception.
Now, I'm not saying that's good, but I don't understand why Gloucester, Mass., is such a surprise.
According to 2006 published statistics from the Guttmacher Institute, overall teen pregnancy rates in the United States are declining. In fact, the rate was 30 percent lower in 2002 than the peak in 1991 at 61.8 births per 1000 females. Also, between 1990 and 2002 the pregnancy rate among girls who had ever had sex at all dropped 28 percent.
Among black girls, according to teenpregnancy.com, pregnancies are dropping faster than with any other group. Between 1990 and 2000, the rate dropped 40 percent. However, at 63.7 births per 1000, black girls still have significantly more teen pregnancies than the national average.
Now what does all this mean? Well first, the stats blow the hype away, so don't drink the media Kool-Aid. Teen pregnancies, although we are frustrated when we see them, have actually leveled off and declined. In the black community, they look so bad because, like in nearly all-white Gloucester, they are concentrated among the low-income side of town.
Secondly, these stats should show us something. The pregnancies all began a decline in the early 1990s as use of oral contraceptives became widely available. For many teen girls, the pill replaced their father's foot-in-your-ass form of birth control, which is largely missing as divorce rates climbed among American families.
Here's where the Religious Right (or self-righteous) always bowls me over in laughter. They are constantly babbling about how America is going down a moral toilet, but they never look up facts and figures to back up the garbage they spew. What's more, the person they look to as the principle figure in their faith was supposed to have been born to a teenage mother!
Now, as for the Gloucester 17, if you really look at it, these are not kids at all. They are really young women who made an adult decision: the choice to carry a child to term. Many girls across the nation make these choices and have options. For instance, they can choose not to have sex, thereby avoiding pregnancy completely; they can demand their partners use contraception, or use contraception themselves; they can abort the pregnancy; or they can have and raise their children.
I don't know enough about the girls in this case to make any assumptions, but if media reports are right, they chose the affirmative when it came to childbearing. So if they made such an adult decision, they should be treated as such. In a case like this, the expectation should be placed on them that they will do what is necessary to provide for themselves and their babies up to and including completing their education and obtaining marketable skills, rather than hoping to be taken care of by the public gallery because "babies are cute."
Recently, I read a fascinating book called The Case Against Adolescence, by Dr. Robert Epstein, who teaches at Harvard and is editor-at-large of Psychology Today magazine. He argues that we should eliminate the teenage years as a social phenomenon altogether. Epstein believes -- and I'm inclined to agree -- that when you are about 14 or 15, you are essentially an adult, that you are capable of making adult choices, and can operate with the competency -- and responsibility and accountability -- of any grown person.
The problem, he says, is that we tend to tell teenagers that they are feeble little kids, unable to make their own decisions and that they need to continue to suckle on their mother's social, financial and psychological teet for an increasing number of years.
The result is adolescents going to extremes to prove their maturity, and perhaps having a kid at age 16 is one way to do it. In fact, Epstein says, lots of teenage girls had kids back in the day because by that time they were married and considered old enough to start a life with their husbands of roughly the same age.
So, I say all this to say, maybe if you want to avert more Gloucester-style baby booms, how about demanding responsible mature behavior from adolescents rather than looking at them as doe-eyed cherubs. As I've said, they are essentially grown, so make them act like it, thereby at least forcing teen problems to become adult problems: their adult problems.


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By: benjamin seabrook on 7/01/2008 11:29AM
It is amazing to read all this. Children can't get pregnant. The only animal that can get pregnant is a sexually mature animal. Beyond our superior intellectual biology we are just as every other animal on the planet. This effort to defy nature and expect these young adults to do what the older ones of us haven't been able to accomplish, is silly. This is not a new phenomenon. Babies have traditionally been born to teenagers all over the world especially to blacks during slavery. What slave master with good sense was going to let a slave of child baring age not bear a child? Black folk don't need to be talking about limiting birth. We are disappearing as it is. The population growth for so called white folk is 1.8. The population growth for so called black folk is 1.4. It is somewhere between 2.75 and 4.5 for Latinos which by the way is the word that was created to Identify slaves brought to the Spanish Isles before the slave act of 1839; correct me if I’m wrong. What we need to do is start at birth teaching our children a sense of responsibility. They need to be built up and made to be real strong and sure of themselves so that when they get to that stupid time of life that we all have to go though with all kinds of biological and social changes, they will have the thinking tools that they have been practicing with to help them get though it.
Now let me have a little fun. I thing every black man should have the goal of fathering at lease 10 children with the same woman and wife. I believe that black children can and should graduate from high school at the age of 14. That will help us catch up for the 400 years of slavery that white folk had to get the jump on us. I believe that we should all have PhDs by the time we are 24; it’s about time we ruled the world. But for all that to happen we have to take account of ourselves and realize that we are all a part of the problem. Here is an exercise: repeat this mantra:
I am a part of the problems that I see every day
Among the people that look like me. I don't like
admit it and it hurts to admit it but I know it's
and I'm only fooling my self when I don't re-
cognize and deal with this fact.
This problematic legacy was force on my slave
grand parents to keep them from knowing themselves
as human beings. What part of me and what part
of my culture still carries this social and
psychological diseases? What do they look like?
How do I recognize them in myself and my
culture and what will I do about them when I
find them in myself? Where can I find help to
deal with them? Who can I help to deal with them?
Now that I have admitted that I am part of the
problem I will never stop looking for ways to be
part of the solution, not just for the people
that look like me but for all of the misguided
human beings on this incredible solar experiment
called earth for we all are brothers with the
same original parents who were created by the
truth, in a beautiful garden on the breast of
of mother Africa.
Memorize it; repeat it three times a day and watch your own world change. Don’t preach just live it and your life will be the sermon. God Bless
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By: Elmo Jones on 7/29/2008 4:39AM
TAKE RESPONSIBILITY FOR WHAT YOU’VE DONE, QUIT LYING TO OUR KIDS TO COVER YOUR SHAME.
That is why we fight to maintain social standards so young women will not always just have babies. When the standards of behavior take hold, they will come to know that until they have married, this is not a good idea for themselves, the OOWS, or the fathers.
Until the older people have the heart and guts to stand up and say to the young "I did it, and I strongly recommend that you wait until marriage with a spouse who you know well, and have built a history with." Slow and steady wins the game.
Of course couples part sometimes, and we will never be rid of divorce as long as people attempt marriages To think this is unrealistically stupid. The goal here shouldn't be the complete eradication of divorce, but increasing the number of children born to and raised in stable two parent homes. Thereby lifting ourselves from this perpetual state of subservience to our fellow countrymen. Begging for acceptance and never being free of the fear that we are not and never will be equal.
As long as people keep justifying wrongs by making excuses for their own behavior, we will have this problem of broken families which only produces more broken people who will become the outcasts of more broken families. And the always handy Black man is the ever ready scapegoat.
Quit lying to our young people to cover the garbage you've done! When they age a little and find out the truth about the hard life they have been led into, they will not respect you for the lies that you have told. And consequently one more young generation disregards the older perspective, and another 25 years of struggle are wasted.
Sadly they will in turn pass this disease on to their children ad nauseam. Babies having babies is not funny, cool, accepted or expected. And even if this has been true in the past, it’s about time we change this model.
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