The tragic and public death of teenager Abraham Biggs brings to light two social phenomena that continue to be poorly understood: the threat of suicide and how to prevent it; as well as the so-called bystander effect, which is exaggerated by the detached nature of communication via the Internet.
Many might see those who talk about killing themselves as just crying wolf, but there is a clear way to differentiate between those who truly intend to follow through from those who haven't reached that breaking point.
Biggs had a plan: a well thought out, calculated strategy carried out in front of a wide online audience. A professional would have known that his suicide letter posted on another site, a Webcam set up and history of depression were clear indications that he meant business.
Unfortunately, the basics of suicide prevention aren't common knowledge to enough members of the public.
Often times we see ourselves as being helpless to influence someone in such dire need of help. However, asking the simple question, "Do you have a plan?" can save someone's life. Anyone planning suicide needs swift and professional help and should be under that kind of care until they can be stabilized....
Morton M. Silverman of The National Suicide Prevention Resource Center, in
Most suicide prevention specialists would want to intervene before suicidal planning emerges or before planning "goes too far."
Of course this does not address the most powerful contributing factor to Biggs' untimely death, which in my opinion is the bystander effect.
The term bystander effect refers to the phenomenon in which the greater the number of people present, the less likely people are to help a person in distress; it was a phenomenon made famous by the Kitty Genovese murder.
With so many people watching Briggs online, no one even bothered to alert authorities until 12 hours later, probably assuming that someone else would take action first. Perhaps they felt communicating with Abraham directly online might steer him away from overdose, but again, Biggs needed the help and supervision of professionals.
As discussion of mental illness continues to be a taboo subject within the African-American community, we should not be surprised to see more cases like this in the future. The only way to change this will be by removing the stigma about mental illness, educating the public about recognizing warning signs and realizing that you, as an individual, can save lives.
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By: Benjamin Loveless on 11/24/2008 2:55PM
Suicide is a choice and just because someone wants to make this choice does not mean that they should be locked up and prevented from doint so. It is the right decision for many people under many circumstances, and to interfere with thier life and ones ability to take complete ownership over it by ending it is arrogant, selfish, and cruel.
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By: Lisa Kaye on 11/24/2008 2:52PM
I disagree with you Benjamin. Suicide is a choice made under duress, when you're clouded from exploring other options. Everyone has the right to be exposed to alternate ways to relieve mental anguish. I think it's arrogant, selfish, and cruel to turn a blind eye to anyone seeking help, no matter how they might ask.
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By: Benjie Loveless on 11/24/2008 3:03PM
..and what if they are not asking for help or the right help is just simply not a possibility ? Lock them up in a hospital while the bills pile up and they lose there job and are further isolated from the things they have left. Yeah that s a really ggo way to "support" someone. Hold them against their will and take away the few pieces of their life that might still make sense. ..and if someones life is nothing but duress and that situation will not change how is it justifiable to hold them to this existence ? Simply for the comfort and convenience of those that would be left behind ?
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By: Lisa Kaye on 11/24/2008 3:22PM
No one knows the answers to any of your "what ifs" until all avenues are exhausted. How can you have a rational conversation with someone who isn't in their right mind? As most suicidal people are not. If you take the time to help someone, and they decide they still want to follow through, fine. But most times, that's not the case.
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By: B. Eshe on 11/24/2008 4:08PM
I don't think anyone who says they are going to kill themselves shouldn't be taking lightly nor ignored. Obviously this person is saying for a reason, rather if for attention or they just really want to die, this seems to be the only way some individuals know how to ask for help. I do not believe you should lock them up unless they show signs of serious mental illness & cannot function their daily lives. Medication works for some but not for others. It is alternative, natural ways to heal, sometimes is just having someone to listen. I do believe suicide is a selfish act, but in the eyes of that person, they may see it as a favor to others. God Bless this Young Man's family. I hate the act of suicide has become the easier way out amongst young adults!!!
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By: dafacts on 11/24/2008 7:40PM
With over 6000 black men being murdered every year in this country many by the hands of other black men... did he really need to do this?
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By: Shamoli on 11/24/2008 9:00PM
Very disturbing, SAD, and sorry it had to happen to this young man that had a future. I wish that somebody could have seen some type of sign? Seeing that he was 19, he is consider an adult and only he can admit himself to somewhere for help. I don't think anybody can force him to go for help if they saw any signs of depression? I will keep his family in my prayers. I guess his family or nobody didn't notice any depression and others thought him being on the web was a joke? I have a sister that is bipolar and when she was younger she wanted to hurt people and our family was afraid of her hurting herself. I know she didn't know what she was doing and didn't mean it. My family got her the help and medication that she needed at an early age. She would problems in school being paranoid of people looking at her, talking about her, and having low self-esteem. She still does feel the same way today, at times. Anything or Anyone can set her off. When I am around her and things happen, I talk to her in a calm way and try to keep her focus on positive things.
My sister is older now and has come a long way. I love her and proud of her! I was always there to support her and my family when it was ROUGH and till this day. You have to be patient, talk, listen, and be supportive all the way with a person that has Bipolar. This is real serious and no one should take lightly. Even though my sister gets me made at times, I understand and she will always be my little sister!
Happy Thanksgiving Day!
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By: Helzerine on 11/25/2008 12:27AM
People these days don't give a darn about no one
but themselves nobody wants to get involve and thats
very sad.My condolences to the Briggs family.
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By: Gerald on 11/25/2008 12:38PM
There is no forgiveness for self murder because the committer of the sin can't ask for it.Those who egged this on as well as those who made no efford to help this youngman will be held accountable by God."It is a terrouble thing to fall into the hands of the living GOD".
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By: Louise Tanner on 11/25/2008 8:55PM
That poor young man had to be under a lot of pressure, may he rest in peace.....One sin that is not forgiven, perhaps if he had known God, he may have taken a different route.
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