
Have you ever been in the grocery store and fantasized about "whooping" somebody else's screaming kids? Don't lie, you know you've thought about it. Even though living out your fantasy might have made your day, you probably didn't do it. If you had, you would be in the same predicament as Roger Stevens, a 61 year old man in Georgia who decided to take the discipline of a woman's child into his own hands.
After growing tired of listening to the woman's 2-year old cry, Stevens told Sonya Mathews "if you don't shut that baby up, I will shut her up for you."
After the child continued to cry, Stevens slapped the child several times across the face. Stephens then told Mathews, "See, I told you I would shut her up," according to the police report.
Police are charging Stevens with felony cruelty to children. The child was not injured but sustained redness to the face. The child's mother might even make some money from this incident, as I am sure civil charges will be filed. But this case brings up a great deal of sentiment within the black community.
Did you grow up getting spanked as a child? Do you think that spanking children is ok? What about the old fashioned stories about anyone in the neighborhood having the right to discipline the children in the community? Does it matter that Stevens was white and the child was black? What do you think his intentions were?
Obviously, his actions were illegal and he is going to pay a major price. But what does this incident bring to mind for you?
Dr. Boyce Watkins is a Distinguished Scholar with the Barbara Jordan Institute for Policy Research. To have Dr. Boyce commentary delivered to your email, please click here.


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By: I am baddkitty on 9/05/2009 1:29AM
oh i do have to say I am a counter. but my meter never gets to two. and the jump off is at the count of three. but of course mine know i mean business and the last place they want to be is at three. for them two is entirely to close.
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By: thhalejr on 9/05/2009 1:07PM
"sissy",
Those were very well spoken and thought out words. How "cookie" found anything to be derisive about is beyond the pale of the comments you made. Calling people stupid and questioning their intelligence, rather than commenting on the subject, shows a shallowness and lack of intellect.
In the context in which the story has been presented, the man should not have slapped the child, under any circumstances. That is not discipline; that's abuse. Also, it doesn't appear that he had any loving intentions to get the child to behave in the first place. However, I will agree with Dr. Watkins. There are times, when frequenting public places, that people, myself included, feel that parents are not exercising proper control over their children and want to give that parent some constructive criticism. For the parents that don't want to be spoken to or want their children to be reminded of how to act in public, it would be best that you teach your child that there are certain societal norms that are expected of individuals, while they are in the public arena. That is a fair expectation to have of everyone, who comes in contact with other people. If this is not in your mind, then, the poor behavior of your children is the least of your problems.
I, for one, was always told by my people that I was representing our family, once outside of our home. How I carry myself and the conduct of my behavior is a direct reflection on my and my family's character and integrity, so there were always standards that were to be upheld. Following those guidelines and showing personal responsibility will keep parents from having to face questions of whether or not someone should have to say anything to one of his or her children. The only statements will be compliments for outstanding men and women that are being molded for society.
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By: girlking on 9/04/2009 6:22PM
To Tire of Poor Me Attitude: It's not They're, that would mean they are. It's "their" since she was speaking of more than one child. Was it necessary for you be insulting?
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By: sissy2004 on 9/04/2009 12:04PM
@Cookie - Sorry my post upset you. I must have been talking about you when I described parents who fail terribly in discipline.
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By: cookie on 9/04/2009 8:57PM
Sissy,there you go again.Your head must really be hurting.Your parents dropped you hard.
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By: dreameagle on 9/06/2009 5:04PM
the next headline should've read, "White man dies..."
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By: billie on 9/08/2009 12:32PM
I have often thought why dont the parent pick up the screaming child or take the child outside...I dont go to the stores to hear a screaming child..Some people actually ignore the child and say the child will sleep better later because it was allowed to cry..PLEASE think of others...
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By: Sherry on 9/04/2009 12:25PM
First of all, I want to know how he got close enough to this person's child to slap her not once but twice after making such a threat. Second, what was mom doing? Finally, if it were me they would still be pulling me off of him. He was so out of order! One more thing..Tired of poor me attitude if you're going to correct someone do it properly. It is not THERE but it is not THEY'RE either it is THEIR silly rabbit!
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By: mac10 on 9/04/2009 12:37PM
I have no kids,(never wanted them), and I'm outraged by this. YES, some people need to better discipline their children, but it's THEIR problem. Honestly, the reason I don't have kids is I've got very little patience for the noise and busyness that children are all about. With that said, until a child actually touches me or my property, I don't have to SAY OR DO ANYTHING. but separate my self (which I have done).
This is something a white person would do. because they have no boundaries. I really believe that most caucacions believe that they can say anything to anyone at anytime and it's ok. Well it's not. I am so sick and tired of a caucacion person in my business. Please, Please MIND YOUR BUSINESS.
If Stephens had given me, the ultamatum he gave her. None this would have happened. I promise you I would have SAID some stuff that would have thrown his CRUSTY, NEO NAZI, DECREPID @SS INTO CARDIAC ARREST.
OH and Eric on DimePiece. Violent? really! How much time have YOU SERVED? You know, for your KLAN activities. Why are people like you and ,Tire of Poor ME,even doing on BV.? Go get a life.
And Tired of Poor ME, You're (did I spell If right) not that smart. I KNOW WHAT "ME" STANDS FOR.
You, Stephens and Eric should go have a party with
some farm animals like you like to do.
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By: "DimePiece" on 9/04/2009 6:49PM
mac10,
Thank you for having my back! :-) I like how you stay true to your words and have respect for other people's kids. You say, "That's the parents problem not yours and you keep your distance"? That is so right! Why can't people have the same SANE FRAME OF MIND as you? All you see now a days are CrAzEd Minds of people trying to either hurt or kill a child that's not even theirs? I'm sure everybody expect that fool eric, knew didn't mean anything? This is suppose to be ENTERTAINMENT too? For all the Tired me's, the eric's, ect...you all need to jump the hell off of BV Blogs because it's not that type of party. Like mac10 said to all of you, "go have a party with
some farm animals like you like to do".
LOL :-)
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