
In a suburb of Washington D.C., a Germantown teacher was forced to apologize to a student after telling her she was dressed like a prostitute.
The Washington Post reported this week:
A Montgomery County teacher who told a high school sophomore last week that she was dressed like a prostitute has apologized to the student and her mother, the mother said Tuesday.
The Seneca Valley High School teacher made the remark Thursday and had a security guard escort the student to the main office, said Naomi Lynn, the girl's mother. The incident was first reported by WJLA (Channel 7). Lynn said she wasn't satisfied with the response; after a one-day absence, the teacher returned to class Tuesday, Lynn said.
"If my daughter had called her a prostitute, [the school] would have suspended her," she said. The teacher "needs to be punished for what she did."
Dana Tofig, a school system spokesman, said that he couldn't comment on personnel matters, but that the teacher's comment was "inappropriate."
I personally want to thank this teacher for having the guts to say what so many teachers and school administrators are afraid to say.
Whatever happened to enforcing standards in our schools? I remember our principal would get on us if our jeans were a little too tight. At some point, it seems the school community just gave up:
You want to wear a thong hanging out of your jeans, you want to have your boobies falling out, your ass cheeks popping out of your low-riders, no problem.
Notably, the only person the parent in the above story is mad at is the teacher. She's mad at the teacher for speaking the truth about her daughter. As a result, the teacher was suspended for a day, however, the mother seems to think this punishment was too light. Something tells me she needs to worry more about her daughter than this teacher's career.
Children learn what is and isn't appropriate from adults. How will this young lady ever learn how to function as a lady if her parents and school administrators, the people who spend the most time with her and are most influential in shaping her life, just let her run wild?
We forget that high school students are a mix of adult-bodies and children-brains. Many young women want to look like their favorite video hos but don't understand the ramifications of the way they dress.
They don't understand how they will be perceived, they don't understand that they will invite more trouble than they can handle. And because they don't understand, it is up to us to tell them and make them understand.
Whatever happened to "you are not going out the house like that"? I think it is the responsibility of the community and the schools need to step in.
And although teens will be defiant, won't listen and pack a bag with a change of clothes, at least we will have shown them that there is a standard and they can choose to meet it or not.
Although we all acted out as teens, most of us at least had a moral compass that was enforced by our parents, so we knew we were wrong and would just pray we didn't get caught.
But what happens when children don't have a moral compass to start from? When there is no clear distinction between right and wrong? When your bad choices go unchallenged? When adults will accept anything in the name of keeping them happy and avoiding conflict at all costs? What happens?
To stand around and passively endorse their inappropriate dress with our inaction is unforgivable. Look at all those awful prom pictures (like the one pictured above) that circulate each year with a bunch of scantily clad young women. The schools may as well go all the way and set up a pole in the middle of the gymnasium.
I always wonder, Where are the parents? And if the parents are dumb enough to let their kids come out like that, where are the school administrators? They should have turned around those girls at the door and told them that they were inappropriately dressed for a school function.
I know we're only talking about clothes, but it's larger than that. We cannot underestimate the importance of teaching young women how to present themselves to the world. This is a lesson that can make the difference between a girl growing up believing she's only good for one thing and a girl that knows she has so much more to offer than her body.
Whether we use shame, positive enforcement, punishment or some Dr.Phil hybrid of the three, we MUST demonstrate to our children that standards do exist. There is acceptable and unacceptable. And it is adults, not children, who will decide which is which. This girl was in the 10th grade, and I personally think she's old enough to be told she's dressed like a prostitute. The real problem is that her mother didn't tell her first.
Peace people...


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By: Wallace on 3/14/2010 7:01PM
Evidently Mark has never been a teacher. I have and I would have said the same thing and have and told the administration I would walk before I apologized. With the shortage of qualified male teachers, I had no problem from the parent, student, or administration again. That classroom is my domain and I have standards that are set forth at the beginning of the school year. If you don't like it go somewhere else and as I told them,"home schooling is an option in this State."
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By: Karen on 3/15/2010 4:10PM
Have u lost your mind. Would you let your teen-age daughter dress like that?! Let alone leave the house with that on? Hell no! Stop saying teachers are out of control. It's the young people out of control. And ANY parent who thinks that this is apprppriate for a sophmore needs parenting classes!
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By: Anthony on 3/15/2010 4:54PM
Bro' I own a Lingerie Store www.Steakdaddy-Lingerie.com. But, I also know what is appropriate and what is not. If a model arrived for an interview dressed inappropriately I'd not hire her. I'm also the father of two(2) teenage girls(MY ANGELS) But,but,believe me if they went to school dressed like that, "Their souls my belong to JESUS, but their BEHINDS would belong to me".
The teacher gave this young lady a little advice about perception in thereal world, not the HOOD.
In the real world if she's out and about and dressed that way at work she's either FIRED, HARASSED, Passed over for advancement, or not considered for the job, PERIOD. The MOM maybe upset but she needs to open her eyes. In a perfect world do whatyou want, wear what you want,andeveryone LOVES YOU,OK!!! But,that is not, I repeat myself, is not reality. Get it straight man so that one day if you have kids(FEMALES) they won't walk around the neighborhood or school with their cheeks or boobs hangin'. THINK ABOUT IT!!!
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By: raywil3 on 3/12/2010 12:09PM
We're assuming that the parent thought the apparel was inappropriate. She obviously didn't. I don't think the teacher should have used the word prostitute, but the school had every right to not let the girl attend the function because her attire was inappropriate.
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By: dee on 3/13/2010 4:02PM
I don't think the teacher said anything wrong. The gril is dressed like a prostitute. If you don't want to be perceived as one, don't dress like one. If it walks and talk like a duck, than it is a duck, and the mother is acting like her pimp. I continue to hear women talk about how men disrespect them in rap songs, but they are the main ones displaying the image.
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By: raywil3 on 3/12/2010 12:11PM
And what about the girl? Do you find her clothing appropriate?
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By: Noel Cookman on 3/12/2010 12:14PM
I agree with you Boyce. The problem is that you support and continue to support the demoract party agenda and its coalition (ACLU) which is steadfast in its resistance to the application of any value system that smells of "christian," "traditional," "American" or "moral." Without a foundational, moral system of values, who are you and who am I to say this girl should be redressed (double entendre).
When some value system that purports objective and unassailable truth, you and your group cries foul and tries to find a Republican child molestor to buttress your liberal agenda and demonize the values voter - namely conservatives.
You support the distribution of condoms in schools, the casualization of sex through what passes as "sex education" while it opposes all mention of abstinence as the single and only sure way to avoid pregnancy and STD's . . . yet the girl should be told that she looks like she surely complies with the implications of everything she is learning from "public education" empowered by Planned Parenthood and Teacher's Unions! I don't get it.
Why not be consistent and deal with the need for an underlying conservative, morally justifiable philosophy - one that will lead you to surely denounce everything in the liberal or democrat parties and join the conservative movement?
Welcome home my brotha!
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By: Jam Donaldson on 3/12/2010 12:55PM
Boyce?
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By: Noel Cookman on 3/12/2010 1:21PM
My bad. I thought that Boyce had written this one.
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By: BroMan5thFloor on 3/12/2010 8:45PM
What does politics have to do with anything? Things like this happened during the Bush Administration too!!! We are living in perilous times and that is the bottom line. Yes her parent needs a spanking and she was dressed inappropiately. The teacher's choice of words were inappropiate although I agree with her motive.. your response is totally irrelevant. By the way it is the daughters of the right wingers who tongue kiss each other when they're drunk at a party on those "Girls Gone Wild" videos!!!
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