
In a suburb of Washington D.C., a Germantown teacher was forced to apologize to a student after telling her she was dressed like a prostitute.
The Washington Post reported this week:
A Montgomery County teacher who told a high school sophomore last week that she was dressed like a prostitute has apologized to the student and her mother, the mother said Tuesday.
The Seneca Valley High School teacher made the remark Thursday and had a security guard escort the student to the main office, said Naomi Lynn, the girl's mother. The incident was first reported by WJLA (Channel 7). Lynn said she wasn't satisfied with the response; after a one-day absence, the teacher returned to class Tuesday, Lynn said.
"If my daughter had called her a prostitute, [the school] would have suspended her," she said. The teacher "needs to be punished for what she did."
Dana Tofig, a school system spokesman, said that he couldn't comment on personnel matters, but that the teacher's comment was "inappropriate."
I personally want to thank this teacher for having the guts to say what so many teachers and school administrators are afraid to say.
Whatever happened to enforcing standards in our schools? I remember our principal would get on us if our jeans were a little too tight. At some point, it seems the school community just gave up:
You want to wear a thong hanging out of your jeans, you want to have your boobies falling out, your ass cheeks popping out of your low-riders, no problem.
Notably, the only person the parent in the above story is mad at is the teacher. She's mad at the teacher for speaking the truth about her daughter. As a result, the teacher was suspended for a day, however, the mother seems to think this punishment was too light. Something tells me she needs to worry more about her daughter than this teacher's career.
Children learn what is and isn't appropriate from adults. How will this young lady ever learn how to function as a lady if her parents and school administrators, the people who spend the most time with her and are most influential in shaping her life, just let her run wild?
We forget that high school students are a mix of adult-bodies and children-brains. Many young women want to look like their favorite video hos but don't understand the ramifications of the way they dress.
They don't understand how they will be perceived, they don't understand that they will invite more trouble than they can handle. And because they don't understand, it is up to us to tell them and make them understand.
Whatever happened to "you are not going out the house like that"? I think it is the responsibility of the community and the schools need to step in.
And although teens will be defiant, won't listen and pack a bag with a change of clothes, at least we will have shown them that there is a standard and they can choose to meet it or not.
Although we all acted out as teens, most of us at least had a moral compass that was enforced by our parents, so we knew we were wrong and would just pray we didn't get caught.
But what happens when children don't have a moral compass to start from? When there is no clear distinction between right and wrong? When your bad choices go unchallenged? When adults will accept anything in the name of keeping them happy and avoiding conflict at all costs? What happens?
To stand around and passively endorse their inappropriate dress with our inaction is unforgivable. Look at all those awful prom pictures (like the one pictured above) that circulate each year with a bunch of scantily clad young women. The schools may as well go all the way and set up a pole in the middle of the gymnasium.
I always wonder, Where are the parents? And if the parents are dumb enough to let their kids come out like that, where are the school administrators? They should have turned around those girls at the door and told them that they were inappropriately dressed for a school function.
I know we're only talking about clothes, but it's larger than that. We cannot underestimate the importance of teaching young women how to present themselves to the world. This is a lesson that can make the difference between a girl growing up believing she's only good for one thing and a girl that knows she has so much more to offer than her body.
Whether we use shame, positive enforcement, punishment or some Dr.Phil hybrid of the three, we MUST demonstrate to our children that standards do exist. There is acceptable and unacceptable. And it is adults, not children, who will decide which is which. This girl was in the 10th grade, and I personally think she's old enough to be told she's dressed like a prostitute. The real problem is that her mother didn't tell her first.
Peace people...


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By: redwine_33 on 4/01/2010 12:45PM
From a policy standpoint we aer taking away the power of the administrators and placing it in the power of the students. If we are going to allow students to do what in the hell they want to, then what is the point of rules and regulations. The young lady in the photo above was dressed inappropriate (period, point, blank). Someone should have called her mother a pimp, because only a pimp would allow a child to go out dressed as she was. Not only do I agree that it was a mistake to remove prayer from school, but the school system also became more dysfuntional when the Supreme Court decided to take discipline out of school. This young lady and her mother should have been apologizing to the other school function attendees. They were disrespectful! And disrespectful parents, will continue to breed more disrespectful children.
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By: Miles on 4/15/2010 4:02AM
Those of you who are criticizing this girl and commending this teacher for her bad behavior are complete idiots. Have you seen what this girl was actually wearing to school that day when the incident in question occurred?? If you've seen the pictures of her outfit, you wouldn't side with the teacher because there was absolutely nothing inappropriate about her outfit. ABSOLUTELY NOTHING! She was wearing what any other average teenage girl would wear to school on an average day. There was no reason that she should have been called a "prostitute" by a person who calls themselves an educator. Then to add insult to injury, she was escorted down to the office by a resource officer. This is an ugly situation indeed and it's unbelievable that this teacher isn't in more trouble than this.
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By: poetrysez on 5/14/2010 11:21PM
It doesn't matter what the young lady was wearing, teachers have a code of ethics that forbade them from making inappropriate comments. Sometimes it's not what you say but how you say it. The teacher should've chose her words better. However, if the teacher felt that the young lady was dressed inappropriately, the teacher should've requested that the young lady either go home and change or spend the day in detention. The mother should've been called on her job to let her know that her daughter wore inapprpriate clothing to school.
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By: Say that Again! on 9/22/2010 7:13PM
I am 15 and I strongly Agree. I am a New 9Th grader and I see the way Kids' dress. Yes,Where are the strict,real parents when we Need them? lay it down on the table for them to Realize What they are doing to themselves? They walk across the street or to the 7-up store with Mini skirts,Red lipstick,wigs,Over-sized Earrings,Big High-Heels and a Purse. I think it's the Hip-Hop Videos and the Sexual Exposure of T.V and Magazines. When will the Government or the Society Human forces step up and tell these kids,"Ah,I'm not trying to press your Buttons or act like I'm your Mother. But This is not a Teenager." They go to school thinking they have alot of Real friends that will be there for them and hold their hands,They wear these tight a** jeans with their Big Behind Junky sticking out and Their Boyfriends calling them Ho** and Stupid Bitc***! Where's the Discilpine and Self-Control over these Freaks and wanna-be Gangsta Girls? Where are The parents that Set the "don't want to hear it" Mouth and take their BeLoff to their room and lock them in there untill they get it through their Narrow-Idiotic Heads? Questions like This and That should be Haven answers from the Lazy a** Moms who Think they are Good,Christian's,Well,Let me see. Wrong! Lucky,I am not one of those Teens,wish I was Freakin' 12 Man.
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By: Pursuit on 9/27/2010 11:42PM
Sigh.... this seems like another chance for the Black community to tear down and sexualize its own girls.
I want to see the real picture BTW.
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By: Denise on 10/06/2010 12:55PM
This is a great example of parents not training their children at home. I am also a black parent and have taught my daughter how to respect herself and this child clearly has not been taught respect for herself and others, i wonder what the mom dresses like.
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By: Retired teacher on 2/06/2011 10:53AM
First of all, I would not teach in a public school where this type of dress is allowed. The school obviously has no dress standards whatsoever. The academic standards are probably rock bottom. She is dressed like a whore. The teacher spoke the truth, so now we are punishing teachers for speaking the truth? What's up with that? Do you want us to not speak the truth, to lie to kids about how they come across? The parent probably is a whore. So sad.
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