
In a suburb of Washington D.C., a Germantown teacher was forced to apologize to a student after telling her she was dressed like a prostitute.
The Washington Post reported this week:
A Montgomery County teacher who told a high school sophomore last week that she was dressed like a prostitute has apologized to the student and her mother, the mother said Tuesday.
The Seneca Valley High School teacher made the remark Thursday and had a security guard escort the student to the main office, said Naomi Lynn, the girl's mother. The incident was first reported by WJLA (Channel 7). Lynn said she wasn't satisfied with the response; after a one-day absence, the teacher returned to class Tuesday, Lynn said.
"If my daughter had called her a prostitute, [the school] would have suspended her," she said. The teacher "needs to be punished for what she did."
Dana Tofig, a school system spokesman, said that he couldn't comment on personnel matters, but that the teacher's comment was "inappropriate."
I personally want to thank this teacher for having the guts to say what so many teachers and school administrators are afraid to say.
Whatever happened to enforcing standards in our schools? I remember our principal would get on us if our jeans were a little too tight. At some point, it seems the school community just gave up:
You want to wear a thong hanging out of your jeans, you want to have your boobies falling out, your ass cheeks popping out of your low-riders, no problem.
Notably, the only person the parent in the above story is mad at is the teacher. She's mad at the teacher for speaking the truth about her daughter. As a result, the teacher was suspended for a day, however, the mother seems to think this punishment was too light. Something tells me she needs to worry more about her daughter than this teacher's career.
Children learn what is and isn't appropriate from adults. How will this young lady ever learn how to function as a lady if her parents and school administrators, the people who spend the most time with her and are most influential in shaping her life, just let her run wild?
We forget that high school students are a mix of adult-bodies and children-brains. Many young women want to look like their favorite video hos but don't understand the ramifications of the way they dress.
They don't understand how they will be perceived, they don't understand that they will invite more trouble than they can handle. And because they don't understand, it is up to us to tell them and make them understand.
Whatever happened to "you are not going out the house like that"? I think it is the responsibility of the community and the schools need to step in.
And although teens will be defiant, won't listen and pack a bag with a change of clothes, at least we will have shown them that there is a standard and they can choose to meet it or not.
Although we all acted out as teens, most of us at least had a moral compass that was enforced by our parents, so we knew we were wrong and would just pray we didn't get caught.
But what happens when children don't have a moral compass to start from? When there is no clear distinction between right and wrong? When your bad choices go unchallenged? When adults will accept anything in the name of keeping them happy and avoiding conflict at all costs? What happens?
To stand around and passively endorse their inappropriate dress with our inaction is unforgivable. Look at all those awful prom pictures (like the one pictured above) that circulate each year with a bunch of scantily clad young women. The schools may as well go all the way and set up a pole in the middle of the gymnasium.
I always wonder, Where are the parents? And if the parents are dumb enough to let their kids come out like that, where are the school administrators? They should have turned around those girls at the door and told them that they were inappropriately dressed for a school function.
I know we're only talking about clothes, but it's larger than that. We cannot underestimate the importance of teaching young women how to present themselves to the world. This is a lesson that can make the difference between a girl growing up believing she's only good for one thing and a girl that knows she has so much more to offer than her body.
Whether we use shame, positive enforcement, punishment or some Dr.Phil hybrid of the three, we MUST demonstrate to our children that standards do exist. There is acceptable and unacceptable. And it is adults, not children, who will decide which is which. This girl was in the 10th grade, and I personally think she's old enough to be told she's dressed like a prostitute. The real problem is that her mother didn't tell her first.
Peace people...


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By: BROOKLYN on 3/12/2010 12:53PM
Mike I'm with you.
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By: Fred Filostrat on 3/12/2010 12:58PM
Good Lord, I am afriad. I am afriad that we have trully lost a generation of our children. Has it come this? Are we that blind? Look at this child, yes a child. Most of all, as a people do we deserve the condemnation of others. It takes a village. But what if the elders of the village have lost thier moral direction?
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By: Sugar on 3/12/2010 2:49PM
I think that is what's happening, Fred. It goes back to "babies having babies". The mother is a child, so how can she raise her own child? I wonder where the "Big Mom" in this picture is, or somebody that can give these poor children of God some guidance.
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By: low from the O on 3/12/2010 1:01PM
anyone who agrees with this parent is a part of the problem. what do you expect from educators and what do you expect from yourself? I want to know
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By: Vivienne on 3/12/2010 1:32PM
It is a shame that the mother is ok with her daughter walking around half naked. Children live what they learn and who knows? maybe that was what she learn from her mother. When children are allowed to do what they want we end up with a society of loose disrespectful young people who grow up to be loose disrespectful parents who do not want anyone even educated respectful teachers to correct their children and show up the inadequacies of their parenting. Sad state of affairs in the most progressive country in the world. Freedom has run amuck.
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By: djkut on 3/14/2010 9:12AM
Looks like whoever is in charge of BV is either allowing or doing some crooked shyt on these posting here is the real story.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=hWIoTIgiwfg
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By: Jelani A.Tendai on 3/12/2010 1:10PM
This teacher was totally out of conttrol and needs to be reprimanded. We need to hold our teachers to a higher standard and the fact that whomever wrote this artice defends the teacher is absoltly appauling and I am flabergasted.
Yes, there are standards but this teacher should have used better judgement when relaying her message, she was wrong flat out. No matter what the student had on. Teachers are role models and should act accordingly. How dare he defend this teachers stupid actions.
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By: Noel Cookman on 3/12/2010 1:39PM
Let's approach this mathematically and rationally.
Option 1: The student KNEW she was dressed like a "ho" and meant to dress as such.
a. she has no ground to be shocked or insulted unless she was offended that she was not called a "ho," the moniker of choice; to be told that one looks like a prostitute when this obviously lacks the more preferred slutty connotation of "ho."
b. she imagined that no one would notice and was offended that a female (probably) teacher noticed rather than the boys or a male teacher; that is, she would not have been offended if one of the "johns" had noticed her sensual attire.
Option 2: She had no idea that she was dressed like a prostitute.
a. the teacher spared her from being absolutely shocked out of her mind when some time that day the student would no doubt have been pawned, fondled, touched inappropriately, advanced upon, solicited. Kudos to the teacher.
b. she rode the "short bus" to school which might explain why no one bothered to think it was out of the ordinary until she arrived at class where even the "special" kids are not allowed to dress this way.
In any case, her pictures and videos will no doubt appear again in many places on the internet, probably that 80% of the internet reserved for porn. This could be a great career-starter for her. Mama, when you don't have a son that gets drafted in the NFL, how else you gonna get that mansion?
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By: bookworm1of2 on 3/14/2010 5:46PM
Once again, the teacher could have use more appropriate words, and or a desscription but Jelani, get real, once again, this is the REAL world, this child albeit is only 15, I'm sure she's hip (oops, aware) to the fact that she is out of line with her attire, and that she has been allowed, yes allowed to think that is o.k., frankly I am flabbergasted that no one said anything before this and as you mentioned, yes she is an an educator, so she should be held to a highter standard is some bull doo-doo, where is the "HIGHER" standard that should have started from her parents the day she (they) are born.. quit posting your in the clouds.
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By: Anica Bennett on 3/12/2010 1:12PM
While the wording was inappropriate, the point is correct. Also, there is a huge difference in calling the young lady a prostitute and saying that she is dressed like one. There is a huge problem in our nation when school administrators who saw that young lady come in to school like that didn't immediately call her parent(s) and to bring her something else to wear. Where is the young lady's father?
I agree with many comments about the lack of a moral compass. And unfortunately many young parents don't have it because it was never given to them. Tragically, you can't practice or teach what you haven't learned yourself.
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