
Reginald Thomas is the type of father that all men, especially black men, should try to emulate.
Thomas was a building superintendent in Chicago who lost his job and the apartment that came with it. He and his 8-year-old son, Reggie Jr., ended up in a homeless shelter while he tried to find a new job and apartment for them.
Residents and staff there marveled at the devotion Thomas showed his boy. He instilled manners and respect, teaching his son how to treat people and helping him with homework at night. During the day, Thomas worked at the shelter helping others.
"We take life one day at a time, and we do what we have to do. I'm there for him and he's there for me," Thomas said in an interview with Aol. Black Voices.
"The mother is not involved and he was just working so hard for his child," Rhonda Davis, director of transient ministries at the shelter, told Chicago Tribune columnist Dawn Turner Trice. "To watch the two, they were such a team."
And then Thomas, 43, suffered a massive stroke.
Even though he was paralyzed on one side of his body and could not speak, Thomas was so determined to care for his son that his progress marveled the hospital staff. Soon, with the help of medicine and therapy, Thomas began talking again. In the picture above, Reggie Jr. checks out his dad's new haircut while visiting him at the University of Illinois Medical Center.
"I think Reggie's story just hits close to home for everyone, because he carries all the attributes that we see in our own fathers," said Lindsey Thompson, Thomas' speech therapist. "He feels such a strong responsibility to take care and support his family."
The staff, inspired by Thomas' desire to get well for his son, began donating clothes and other goods. Davis helped care for Reggie Jr. while he worked on getting better. Thomas, being proud, at first refused the help, but then realized he needed to do what was best for his son.
Today, the staff marvels at Thomas' recovery. Thompson told Aol. Black Voices in an interview that Thomas was a proud man who was used to taking care of himself and his son.
"His first priority is his son. At first we knew he was at the shelter and recently lost his job and all his things. We basically just adopted them on our unit. Whatever they needed -- the little boy or the Dad -- everybody just instantly wanted to help. But Mr. Thomas, he was so humble and full of pride at the same time. He needed help but didn't want to ask," Thompson said.
That's what seems to be missing from some of today's fathers: the idea that they need to do whatever it takes to do the best thing for their children. More than 63 percent of black households are headed by single women. That is way too high. I'm not saying that there aren't good black fathers, but there aren't nearly enough. Thomas is proving that any obstacles to being a good father can be overcome.
After almost two months in the hospital, Thomas has been released to a nursing home, where he is continuing his recovery. Since his story was printed in the Tribune, some of his family has stepped forward and claimed his son so he no longer has to stay in the shelter by himself while Thomas recovers. Looking for a fresh start, Thomas is considering a move to North Carolina.
Now, Thomas walks with a cane and his speech is improving daily.
"With him, he would look at you and say that he was not sure that he would be able to take care of his son, but you could see that was his drive. The condition he walked out in is not something you normally see," Thompson told Aol. Black Voices."He was the type of father you would want to see raising a child."
The people who have come in to contact with Thomas have also walked away changed.
"When you think people don't care, they do. It's an overwhelming experience to find out that so many people do care," said Thompson.
Soon, Thomas will return to the hospital for more speech therapy. The staff is excited about seeing him again.
"I want my son to learn that whatever he goes through, God has his back and he shouldn't give up," Thomas said. "He's looking forward to me being able to play and talk and laugh with him again, and just be the father he wants and needs me to be."
"Its been a rough ride. I came in the hospital but things have gotten better. It's a blessing from God. He takes care of me," concluded Thomas. "Sometimes we all need help. You have to keep the faith that everything is going to be alright. I just kept thinking that to myself."


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By: Siasta Shante on 4/09/2010 8:25AM
may i ask what do you mean "Obama type men"?
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By: jsilva2720 on 4/09/2010 8:30AM
FINALLY some GOOD news to read about! This man makes me tear up.. He's an acceptional father and God knows he needs to be there for his son and so God helped him get through it.. Another lesson for us to learn.. No matter BLACK, WHITE, LATINO or otherwise.. REAL PARENTS WHO VALUE THEIR CHILDREN WILL DO WHAT EVER NEEDS TO BE DONE TO RAISE THEM AND KEEP THEM SAFE AND LOVED.. I take my hat off to this man.. God has truly BLESSED him.
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By: Alberto on 4/09/2010 8:33AM
Just look at statistics where you will find most Obama type men will get a woman pregnant, then run. I know someone who works for the Baltimore City welfare division and she says most women in the city have Fatherless children who will grow up never knowing what it would be like to have family traditions. I am of Italian ancestry and it is unheard of for us to have any bastard children and if a Father were to abandon his family, he would be punished in various ways outside the law.
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By: stacy leigh on 4/09/2010 11:02AM
I am SO glad the Father is strong and resilient to life's turmoil. Having a stroke is very frightening (I know, I had one last year), he could have died instantly, but was given another chance! I am so happy he is recovering and showing his son a wonderful example of strength. I hope that these two have a change in luck and things get easier from this point on. People like this renew my faith in humanity! I wish them all the best and I will say my prayers for them.
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By: A single mom on 4/09/2010 8:52AM
God Bless you and your son!
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By: Jodi on 4/09/2010 8:58AM
Amazing man!! (Black or white, does not matter). Just an AMAZING MAN!!!!
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By: Tess on 4/09/2010 8:58AM
Having an inner strength and commitment for any purpose of bettering your life is an awe inspiring task. Believing in yourself has proven many times to overcome obstacles that others would say "cannot be done". Thank you for this inspiring story! http://www.spiritualangel.com
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By: chris on 4/09/2010 9:01AM
So, by saying "especially black men" is that meant to say black men are somehow in more need of these types of lessons? Sigh....it's always about race, isn't it! Why not just report the story as one of a loving father and son and not mention race at all? And why have a black voices page at all? Why a separate latino section? Where's the Asian page? Italian? Serbian? For cryin' out loud... STOP THE RACIST CRAP!!!!
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By: bob on 4/09/2010 11:11AM
Because statics show they need it. Only black people because America feels the need to pay them back for all the harsh times in history, eg slavery, they went through.
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By: Ross on 4/09/2010 9:15AM
this is one of the most touching stories i have ever heard. In all honesty. That story is what this world needs, and im glad to see someone is begining it. So God Bless you and your family.
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