
A 23-year-old Michigan woman was arraigned, after being charged with second-degree murder. Police said that she caused another woman to have an accident that led to her death in a fight that started on Facebook.
Torrie Lynn Emery is also charged with child abuse, since the woman had a baby in the car at the time of the accident. Torrie was chasing after Danielle Booth, the 20-year-old woman who she'd been feuding with over the love of a prison inmate.
With Boothe riding in the passenger seat and friend Alesha Abernathy driving the car, Emery chased the women down the highway at speeds as high as 100 miles per hour, ramming the car on multiple occasions. The accident occurred when Abernathy ran a red light to get away from Emery and was hit by a refrigeration truck at an intersection. Boothe was critically injured in the accident.
From the scene that was described in the courtroom, there were quite a few tears being shed by both families of the victims and the alleged perpetrator. No one feels sorry for Emery, since it was her irrational behavior that allegedly caused this entire mess. Also, quite a few of my Facebook friends were turning their heads sideways trying to understand why two women were fighting over a man who is in prison.
One of the most intriguing shows on all of television is a show called "Snapped." The series describes how even the most rational, normal people can do horrible things when they are caught in a fit of jealousy. Obviously, Emery's actions were driven by some type of jealousy or resentment she had toward the woman she felt to be her rival in this love triangle. What's saddest is that sometimes when we love that much, we forget that there are other fish in the sea. As a result of this incident, Emery will have to live with the guilt of her actions for the rest of her life and may never again know her own freedom.
Here is a link that has tips on how to deal with jealousy. While most of us wouldn't try to ram someone off the road, we've all felt the sting of jealousy in our hearts. While jealousy is a short-term psychological disease that can be crippling for several weeks or even months, you do eventually overcome it and find that there is more to live for than that one person who received far too much of your attention.
Love is a crazy thing: people sing about it, cry about it, talk about it and always remember it. The beauty of love is contrasted by the ugliness of incidents like this one, and some might even compare love to a very scary addiction. At the very least, it says that we should be careful about who we trust our hearts to and make sure that we find our way back to sanity when we feel that we've been betrayed. It's never easy for anyone.
Dr. Boyce Watkins is the founder of the Your Black World Coalition and a Scholarship in Action Resident of the Institute for Black Public Policy. To have Dr. Boyce commentary delivered to your email, please click here. 

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By: GONNA ALWAYS HAVE MY SAY on 7/26/2010 8:55PM
OVER A DEAD-BEAT PRISONER? W-T-F??? SHE CAN SPEND TIME WITH HIM FOR SURE NOW..IN PRISON!!
STUPID DUMB-ASS B*TCH!!
IT'S JUST NOT THAT SERIOUS...IT NEVER IS...AND IT NEVER WILL BE!
S-M-H-I-T-D!!
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By: Clinesha18 on 7/27/2010 9:01AM
I second that!!! D-U-M-B!!!
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By: curiousmind on 7/27/2010 10:42PM
They are saying she is bipolar....well, both poles need to go to prison!
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By: MarineLover on 7/26/2010 11:44PM
I just dont understand it. And what's so ridiculous about the who situation....what now? She's locked up....her rival is dead...the child is motherless and the inmate is still an inmate who surely will move on to the next one...I tell my sons often to be careful what you do because if you hurt someone unintentionally, you will still pay for it!
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By: David1 on 7/27/2010 8:36AM
This situation speaks volumes about the bad choices so many women make. It's become popular for many young and older women to seek out relationships from the wrong type of man. Whether these men are prison inmates or just worthless losers on the street, women have to to start taking responsibility for their bad choices in men.
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By: johnny on 7/27/2010 11:31AM
By: David1 on 7/27/2010 8:36AM This situation speaks volumes about the bad choices so many women make. It's become popular for many young and older women to seek out relationships from the wrong type of man. Whether these men are prison inmates or just worthless losers on the street, women have to to start taking responsibility for their bad choices in men.
Wow, I mean really WOW. I can't believe that so many good men don't make the same mistakes in choosing worthless female losers on the street, etc. If only we-MEN AND WOMEN-can just start choosing better partners. Like I said, WOW...This was a sad thing to happen. But we can agree, if this woman was a man, he would be charged with 1st degree murder and attempted murder of the other other women and baby, and child abuse plus other charges. This woman is lucky she is a female; the separate but unequal legal system benefits her gender.
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By: THEONEANDONLY on 7/27/2010 11:21AM
GTFOOH! Who does this, there can't be that much of a man shortgage that you killin' chicks ova a dude that's locked up! NO WAY!
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By: Warren D on 7/27/2010 5:03PM
STFU!!! Are women out here THAT desperate for a man? A fu@*in' convict at that!? Like there aren't enough thugs on the streets to their liking.These two are the definition of "Chickenheads" personified! And 'ol boy has already moved on to the next sucker - you already know. But if they like it - I love it! LMBAO!!
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By: Warren D on 7/27/2010 5:21PM
And BW wonder why good, sucessful, REAL BM go out and find "Becky" and "Heather" ??!! This is exactly why. BW just gotta have the Thugs, and D-Boys, and the Ruff Neks, the Inmates - anything but the "boring", "predictable" Brotha that goes to a real job everyday, stays clear of the law, takes care of home (and her!),loves and fears God . .. Nah ..that ain't for them. Gotta have that excitement and drama of police, and bailbondsmen, and gunfire thru their windows, etc.
But the first thing out their mouths when BM point this out, is " that's not true". B.S! You see it everyday!If these bamas ain't blackin their eyes - they "don't love 'em".If they don't call 'em B's and Ho's they "don't care". How stupid is that - But again - if they like it- I love it!
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By: Michelle on 7/27/2010 10:11PM
Dear Warren
Let me start by saying that I am a 28-year old black man. I graduated from one of the most prestigious universities in Atlanta , Georgia with a Bachelor of Arts Degree in Business Management. I have a good job at a major corporation and have recently purchased a house. So, I consider myself to be among the ranks of successful black men.
I will not use my precious time to slander white people.. I just want to set the record straight of why black men date white women. Back in the day, one of the biggest reasons why black men dated white women was because they were considered easy.
The black girls in my neighborhood were raised in the church. They were very strict about when they lost their virginity and who they lost it to. Because of our impatience to wait, brothers would look for someone who would give it up easy without too much hassle. So, they turned to the white girls. Nowadays, in my opinion, a lot of brothers date white women because they are docile and easy to control. A lot of black men, because of insecurities, fears, and overall weaknesses, have be come intimidated by the strength of our black women. We are afraid that our woman will be more successful than us, make more money than us, drive nicer cars and own bigger houses. Because of this fear, many black men look for a more docile woman. Someone we can control. I have talked to numerous black men and they continuously comment on how easy it is to control and walk over their white women. I just want to set the record straight. I want A Disgusted White Girl to know that not all successful black men date white women.
Brothers like Ahmad Rashad, Denzel Washington, Michael Jordan, Morris Chestnut, Will Smith, Blair Underwood, Kenneth 'Babyface' Edmonds, Samuel L. Jackson, and Chris Rock all married strong black women And, to flip the script, there are numerous white men, in and out of the spotlight, who openly or secretly desire black women over white women. Ted Danson, Robert DeNiro, and David Bowie and Robin Thicke, to name a few..
I just don't want a disgusted white girl to be misinformed Stop thinking that because you are white that you are some type of goddess.
Remember, when black Egyptian Queens like Hatsepshut and Nitorcris were ruling Dynasties and armies of men in Egypt, you were over in the caves of Europe eating raw meat and beating each other over the head with clubs. Read your history!
It was the black woman that taught you how to cook and season your food. It was the black woman that taught you how to raise your children. It was black women who were breast feeding and raising your babies during slavery.
It is the black woman that had to endure watching their fathers, husbands, and children beaten, killed, and thrown in jail. Black women were born with two strikes against them; being black and being a woman. And, through all this, Still They Rise!
It is because of the black women's strength, elegance, power, love and beauty that I could never date anyone except my black Queen. It is not just the outer beauty that captivates and draws me to them. It is not the fact that they come in all shapes, sizes, colors and shades that I love them.
Their inner beauty is what I find most appealing about black women. Their strong spirit, loving and nurturing souls, their integrity, their ability to overcome great obstacles, their willingness to stand for what they believe in, and their determination to succeed and reach their highest potential while enduring great pain and suffering is why I have fallen in love with black women. I honestly believe that your anger is geared more toward jealousy and envy more so than snotty looks. If this were not so, then why do you continuously go to tanning salons to darken your skin? If you are so proud to be white, then why don't you just be happy with your pale skin? Why do you continue to inject your lips, hips, and breasts with unnatural and dangerous substances so you can look fuller and more voluptuous?
I think that your anger is really a result of you wanting to have what the black woman has.
BOTTOM LINE: If I were looking for a docile woman, someone I can walk over and control, I would give you a call. But, unfortunately, I am looking for a Virtuous Woman. Someone that can be a good wife and mother to my children. Someone who can be my best friend and understands my struggles. I am looking for a soul mate. I am looking for a sister and; unfortunately, you do not and CANNOT fit the bill.
No offense taken, none given. Signed, Black Royalty
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By: spoiled on 7/08/2010 12:55PM
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I totatlly love the statements that the Black Royalty wrote in his response. I appreciate you, life, for posting it. Black or White i would like to have a man as articulate as he. I thinking being able to express yourself articulately and descriptively is the lost art. A well spoken man is so attractive.
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