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""It needs to stop!" Denise Ford said about the violence as she was leaving her son's funeral."

Too little too late. This is what happens when you let your kids raise themselves without a father. Guns at a BBQ? Shoot-outs over an argument? What is this, the Wild West??

Go ahead and read the linked articles on this - her older son was raising her younger son in between illegal gambling, making his own illegitimate babies (3 of them) and being shot (3 times previously). Some role model. He's lucky to have made it to the ripe old age of 37 the way he was living.

You can't raise thugs and expect society and the police to come to your rescue when things get violent. It's a classic case of reaping what you sow.

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Oh Paul I wish I didn't have to but I wholeheartedly agree with you. We have got to stop supporting thug life. That is exactly what we do when we:
-allow them to bring guns and other illegal stuff in our homes(clothes, phone, sneakers).
-celebrate all the illegitimate children.
-allow then to drop out of school.
-don't give some sort of religious foundation.
-have 2,3,4 babies with 2,3,4 men.

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We are sooooooooooooo sad. Everytime we blame the victims. A child needs a strong foundation to build upon, because all other grounds are sinking sand. Paul your comment is hateful. Except for the grace of God Almighty it coud happen to anyone of us. Now is the time to pray PREY! Paul how many hours do you spend praying for your brothers and sisters? Did you pray for anyone today beside yourself? Remember when we pray we ought to pray in this manner "Our Father...."

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I just saw this on my profile. This is an excellent feature and gives appreciation to all the hubbers who have done some good work at hubpages. Thanks a lot for starting this.

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Education starts at home,church, learn how to read, play boy, essence, jet, thats ghetto non-sense. Dead-end street, ebonics , wow, stupid and dead ain't cool, the white-man gave you all this freedom fool to do what, kill one another.You can not learn anything if your mouth is always running,know it all,jail is an industry for the stupid people who can not control themselfs.Wasted opportunitys.What the hell are they shotting at, drugs make punks feel tuff.I gave up and retired, educator,left town , you work on it!! That is such a sad story,I can not believe we are in the twenty-first century, and still dumb as hell!Yea, I grow-up and woke-up in the street. Save your self do something for your family be a man,look at your selfs in the mirror, who would hire you, who would talk to a know nothing little boy. Been there done that, section#8 , food stamps.All the Black leaders are dead, you are on your own.Don't worry about what the whiteman said, cover your own ass.

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Who Cares? Black Women have more important things to worry about.

This is shortened this considerably, but here’s REAL TALK – from Halima Anderson’s wonderful website.

If you're a black woman, quiet yourself and receive the wisdom below.


KNOW WHO LABORS AGAINST YOU

Any army that doesn’t know who its enemy is, is about to get wiped out. It is high time black women recognise who their enemies are, by examining from where the ‘offensive’ against them is coming. By their fruits (not their color), you shall know them.

THE POSITION OF BLACK ME RE BLACK COMMUNITY IS NOT HARD TO DECIPHER DESPITE PRETENSE THAT WE NEED EXPERT TO ADVICE US

Consider this: If black nationhood was a priority for black men, do you think 70% of black children would be born outside wedlock with the attendant poverty, and lack of safety these children are more likely to experience? I can assure you that men who know the central position black children have in the future of their race do everything in their power to be with their kid. By their fruits (not propaganda), you shall know them.

Now there is a thing called ‘entry level requirement’ for any endevour; for instance in order to study Engineering you must at least know basic math, that is the entry level requirement for studying Engineering.

Now how possible is it to have a strong black community without strong black families. The basic or entry level requirement for black men who are really linked into the black nation building agenda would be a keen interest in marrying and setting up home with black women.

Yet black men are not even coming in at that ‘entry level’!

SELF-HATE? DOES IT LOOK LIKE BLACK MEN HATE THEMSELVES?

What we rush to label ‘self hate’ in black men is actually ‘black female hate‘. And when black women ‘mis-define’ issues (as they are often encouraged to do), they end up with the wrong solutions.

I have said this before and say it again, that unless black women accurately identify and pin down what ails them and their issues they will never be able to marshal an effective defence against the attacks that are raining down from every angle.

HOW A TEMPORARY PROTOCOL TO HELP OUT BECAME ENTRENCHED AND STANDARD OPERATING PROCEDURE

Speaking to black women still holding out for some race revival: The sentiment that best describes black woman’s mind frame I believe is ‘Lets do what we can in the meantime, as black men get warmed up/wake up to their responsibilities etc etc’.

So black women did what they thought could tide things over because of the hope and faith that black men would ‘come online’ soon (single parenthood, championing the races agenda in the absense of men). But no one put a time limit on this ‘helping out the situation in the meantime’ protocol.

This means that what started out as a temporary measure has become an entrenched procedure.

Now that it has however become clear what the end result of this approach is, black women have to decided once and for all if ‘black nation building’ is a partnership project that needs to be carried out with equal efforts of black men and black women and efforts applied at the same time.

They then have to decide, if black men are really in the partnership with them.

WHY BLACK WOMEN REMAIN CONFOUNDED

One key reason why many black women are in utter confusion at this point; not knowing what to believe and what to do, is because they have made a practice of overriding internal honesty and an honest appraisal of the situation in their attempt to cover/protect black men and be of service to them.

BLACK WOMEN’S RELATIONSHIP WITH EACH OTHER I

Black women have ‘learnt’ how to be unsupportive of other black women over the years particularly in service of black men.

BLACK WOMEN’S RELATIONSHIP WITH EACH OTHER II

Let’s face it, black women are complaining about mistreatment at the hands of black men. They talk about being victimized, and discriminated against, or of being the ‘target’ of black men’s anger etc. Thus for any black woman to want to hang onto her regard, unconditional love, support and faith in black men, outbursts and fall outs with other ’sistas’ is a given, as the presence of these women complaining about black men, will not allow them to keep up the pretence of saintly brotherhood any longer.

They are indeed turning the channel away from the preferred picture of black men and each day the evidence that they are not upstanding and saintly men other black women pin their dreams to, mounts. Thus the tensions and frictions with the ones who are forcing a reassessment of this sacred perspective of the wonderful black male also mounts.

WHY BLACK WOMEN DOUBT THEMSELVES

I want to point out that all this pessimism and disbelief has a lot to do with the fact that for years we have sacrificed our self-esteem and anything that could have improved our self-esteem, on the altar of service to black men. Along the way, black women embraced a self-denying service to their idol black men and the results are with us now.
We decided that an eroded self-esteem for black women would serve to shore up the masculinity of black men. We decided that we would sacrifice any suggestion of our wider appeal to other men, for the sake of inflating the black male ego, which we deemed as suffering under racism.

Well guess what, we have been massively successful; their egos are now grotesquely inflated and out of control. Now some of you can say nothing to black men that they will ‘hear’. Each day brings new demands for catering, coddling and more sacrifices and adoration.
Indeed, black women refused to allow themselves to acknowledge their ‘wider appeal’ for the sake of making black men less threatened and utterly sure of their superior masculinity (which held ‘their’ women utterly captive).

We joined in spreading lies and fables about how black masculinity is superiority to that of all other men.

‘BLACK UNITY’ IS A FAILED CONCEPT

Harsh? Intolerable? For some maybe, but this is a simple, practical and realistic assessment of the situation.
Black unity will remain a failed concept because the critical ingredients to bring it to pass have not been obtained and they remain out of reach. Women running around trying to keep the idea alive and singlehandedly so, will not bring it about. All the fervent and heartfelt desire to see it happen will not do it.

At the most basic level of commitment and interest that these men can be involved, which is caring for and resourcing their families, you cant even get them. This tells you everything you need to know.

Black Male Bashing is defined to prevent black women really coming to grips with what black men are up to. Apparently pointing out the activities of black men which negatively impact black women is the new definition of ‘bashing’.

BLACK WOMEN ARE FORCED BY GENERAL CONVERSATIONS AROUND IR TO PERSIST IN THE BELIEF THAT THEY WANT A BLACK MAN.

Yes it remains important for these folks that black women continue operating in the belief that they have to scramble for black men. These folks that are loudly lamenting about how whites are denying them opportunities and vital information are the same ones, only too happy to set limits on the minds of their fellow black people. How they can live with the sheer hypocrisy is shocking to me.

BLACK MEN HAVE PLACED BLACK WOMEN INTO THE POSITION OF RIVALS, UNBEKNOWN TO BLACK WOMEN

Over the years, black men have begun to view black women as their rivals for the affection, attention and other atonement overtures of white people.

Notice how black men talk about how ‘white society props up black women at the expense of black men’

Notice how they come with a catalogue of their own complaints anytime black women raise the issue of their trials in wider society, to take the focus off black women and block black women from the possibility redress.

They are also ‘measuring shoulders’ with black women over IR because for them, it is about ‘more white people have to like us than like you,’ and ‘our profile and universal appeal must be higher than your’. Any wonder then that many are fighting tooth and nail against black women opening up their options, all the while with a blonde on their arm.

BLACK WOMAN = RACE WOMAN

Black women must give up living their whole existence around the notion of black community. It is the whole obsession of black community; of ‘living for’ black community, ‘surviving’ the black community, ‘looking out’ for black community, ‘uplifting’ the black community, ‘protecting’ black community, ‘fixing’ the black community, working for the benefit of black community, ‘fitting in’ with black community, ‘residing’ in black community, ‘seeking her needs’ within black community, agitating for black community, ‘resourcing’ black community,…………….. that has mired the black woman in her present hardship and misery and struggle.

It is black womens’ refusal to stop playing community engineer or even god with the power to create without the necessary ingredients and raw materials in place, that causes black women to be burdened, stressed, struggling, denied, ill, drained, confused and depressed.

Black women must stop ordering their lives around, even putting themselves on hold for some coming great ‘revival of black people.’ They must go out and get their needs met NOW and from what is obtained and obtainable in the here and now.

SELF CONCERN IS SOMETHING BLACK WOMEN CANNOT HAVE

There has been a massive campaign to extinguish self –concern in black women/girls in the last three decades, and the campaign has been largely successfully.

I see it everyday, mindless, selfless drones of black women all worked up over and rushing around the cares of everyone else, with very little awareness that they have loads and loads of critical concerns that need to be addressed urgently.

It’s really very shocking to me when I have to point out to black women, obvious issues that black women should attend to yet are busy turning over rocks to find issues that they can get stuck in to on behalf of others.

WHY THE BLACK COMMUNITY WANTS BLACK WOMEN LOCKED WITHIN THE GROUP

It is of key importance within the general black thought system, that black women remain firmly located (locked) and localized only within the black construct/setting and unavailable to any other.

This might seem like an issue of black moral pride, even an issue of protecting black women but in reality by being so positioned, black women and their resources, be they material or otherwise, become held exclusively for the use of those within the black group and within ready access to be drawn on by those in the black category.

BLACK WOMEN AS PERMISSION SEEKERS

Black women spend an inordinate amount of time waiting to be given permission, even permission to do what they want and know they should be doing. They want their community to give them a go-ahead, a green light or a pat on the back and say, ‘Yes we have weighed it up now and think that it is ok now for you to proceed’.

Very sad to see all these black women who wont move on with their lives, but are just milling around waiting for a ‘thumbs up’ to get on with life, it is sad because they will never get one. They are the only willing horse now re the so called ‘black agenda’ and their lot is to be worked to death!

THE FAIR-MINDED BLACK MEN IS A SCARCE AS HEN’S TEETH

I must add here that I don’t believe that black men can be fair-minded in this respect. I believe that most are self-serving, and out for themselves. I believe that they have been so spoilt and catered to within the black movement that now, the average black man continues to view issues in terms of all he can get out of it, and is unfit for considering anything beyond himself, particularly anything as far removed from his immediate gratification as that pesky thing denoted ‘black uplift’.

SOME STATISTICS

While 42 percent of Black men were now married, just 31 percent of Black women were married when Census 2000 was taken.

The LOWEST PROPORTION FOR WOMEN OF ANY RACE or origin groups. The 10 percentage-point difference in the percentage of Black men and Black women who were now married was the largest difference between men and women in any of the groups.
(source:census*gov/prod/2003pubs/c2kbr-30*pdf)

REQUIRED: COURAGE

I believe that the spirit required for black women now, is the spirit of courage.

Courage is required to admit hard things, heartbreaking things, things that quake the spirit and knock the knees. Courage to morn and cry yet get on with the task at hand, the task of forging a new path and indeed starting over.

For more REAL TALK, go to these three sites:

Wake Up
dateawhiteguy.blogspot*com

Get Out
sojournerspassport*com

Move On
beyondblackwhite*com

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First the young generations need to read and understand the Law listen, Under the 4 ammendment
Clearly states what a reasonable person may perceive one intenions to be. Example ( If a law enforcement official ask to see a person hands above his head and that person hands go below his waist then that law Enforcement officer have the right to use reasonable force until he can get that subject to comply 100 percent.Moms and Dads many of these Youths are clearly under the influence of this so, call Rap music and many of these songs talks about anti-police,. This should not be a wake up call for parents, But a shake up call for all communities. You allow your kids to be influence by the latest clothing fashion with their
pants falling of there Butts. Many of these youth are Marking there skin and piercing there flesh seems to be trying to cover up there pain and the parents don't say nothing. I think it's time for us to say something, put our foot-down and take responsibility in our household.Closing the problem to this epidemic within our communities are in our homes and cars, you can thank the young rapper icons like J-Zee,Lil Wayne,Kanye Mess and ETC.... and the answer is Jesus Christ.

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