
As the days have gone by since the start of the Bishop Eddie Long scandal, I've become more and more convinced that there needs to be a serious investigation. Something doesn't seem quite right with the New Birth Missionary Baptist Church, and the world needs to hear more from the young men who've been speaking out in public.
While I've seen quite a bit of evidence and videos that have gotten my attention, nothing has compelled me more than the interview with Long's latest accuser, Jamal Parris (pictured). Parris, who was chased down by Fox 5 in Atlanta, was reluctant to talk at first about the incident, but once he spoke up, his words were shocking. I'll lay out some of the thoughts he shared with Fox 5 and give you my take after that.
With passion in his voice and looking as though he was about to cry, Parris went out of his way to tell the world what kind of man he believes Long to be. He said that when Long wanted sex from a young man, he found him interesting, but once he was done with him, he would leave him behind:
"This man turned his back on us when he had no more need for us," Parris said. "That's not a father, that's a predator."
Parris really laid into Long in a way that I've hardly seen from someone with a pending lawsuit. I can't imagine that his attorney was happy to hear that he was speaking so openly about the case. Either way, he was incredibly convincing on camera and would be equally convincing in a courtroom.
"We would have to be the craziest kids in the world to want to come out and admit to another man touching on us publicly. To really believe this is about money would be absolutely ludicrous."
Parris said that he loved Long like the father he never had. He seemed to feel betrayed and abandoned by Long, and the anger looked real:
"I cannot get the sound of his voice out of my head," said Parris. "I cannot forget the smell of his cologne. And I cannot forget the way that he made me cry many nights when I drove in his car on the way home, not able to take enough showers to wipe the smell of him off of my body."
For the finale, Parris hit Long's reputation right where it hurts:
"But that man cannot look me in my eye and tell me we did not live this pain. Why you can sit in front of the church and tell them that you categorically deny it. You can't say that to our face. And you know this. You are not a man, you are a monster."
One cannot say with certainty that Long is guilty of any form of sexual abuse, but I won't tell you where I'd bet my money. Long is going to have a hard time persuading the world that all of his accusers are involved in a conspiracy. He won't have trouble, though, persuading the world that his accusers might be disgruntled.
One has to wonder about Parris' statement about Long abandoning men after losing interest in having sex with them. Does this mean that Long's biggest mistake was to stop supporting them financially? If he were still taking care of them economically would this lawsuit be nonexistent?
One of our loyal BlackVoices readers argued that the Long scandal is not about homosexual sex but is instead about pedophilia. The reader made a good point, but it is not certain that Long had sex with any of the men before they'd reached the age of consent. So, if two men are engaged in a sexual relationship and both of them are adults, at what point have we passed the legal definition of coercion?
I don't know the answers to most of the questions I've posed. But I'm sure that time will reveal all secrets. When the real Bishop Eddie Long is presented to the world, he could end up being a man entirely different from the pastor we respect so much. As sad as it is to say this, I can only hope that his accusers are lying.
Dr. Boyce Watkins is the founder of the Your Black World Coalition and a Scholarship in Action Resident of the Institute for Black Public Policy. To have Dr. Boyce commentary delivered to your email, please click here. 

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By: poetrysez on 9/29/2010 6:17AM
@ Dr. Boyce,
(This is not a quote) I remember several blogs back (on this topic ) you had mentioned that these young men were probably used then tossed aside for the next young (er ) male-and the mistake Bishop probably made by not taking into consideration these guys feelings-because to them they were married for life. ( I don’t recall your exact words but you basically said what this young man is saying).
I also remember a poster making mention of the term pedophile. I was going to reply to that person’s post but like many I’ve become exhausted with discussing the Bishop. I believe that pedophiles like kids very young and with no signs of puberty. A girl who menstruates or a boy with pubic hair-isn’t a pedophiles first choice. At 16 and 17 years of age-most boys-especially Black boys are a little too developed for a pedophile.
Bishop likes them young but not jailbait type of young ( barely legal though ). He waited until these boys were of legal age to consent. However, he may’ve been lusting after them for years. His thoughts probably made him a pedophile.And the fact that he was their pastor-made him a monster.
In Atlanta a 16y/o is legally able to have consensual sex. However, these young plaintiffs’ lawyer is trying to win her case by saying that Bishop also had sex with these guys in other states where 16 year olds can’t consent to having sex. I find it odd that I never heard their lawyer refer to them as being raped or the Bishop as a rapist. Their lawyer does use the term “coerced” a lot.
No wonder the lawyer didn’t want these guys to speak to the media because after hearing what this young man said-I believe there were more hurt feelings then there were violations. Bishop Long appears to be a seducer-who seduced these young men with gifts, money and the worse seduction of all-the belief that what they had was special.
I've read where some posters have suggested that it's impossible to seduce a teenager ( especially a street smart teenager ) however; this pastor seduced a whole congregation, his peers and many on lookers.
Some people have a gift or are very good at the art of suduction-Bishop Eddie Long is one of those people.
The Bishop doesn't take a church salary but he allow his parishoners to give him monetary blessings. Do the math. On a weekly bases he receives more cash from his members-then he could ever receive from a church salary.
( This is not a quote )In another blog a poster had wrote that single mothers should stop giving their hard earned money to preachers. I agree and this is a practice that happens in a lot of churches.
There should be a limit to how much someone pays in tidings. I believe it's supposed to be 10% of your income. Although there're congregants who give way more than that-and some way less. Helping to make your pastor filthy rich-while you're barely able to pay your rent-isn't God's plan for you nor will you receive a special blessing for doing such a thing.
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By: SteveLC on 9/30/2010 2:36AM
POETRYSEZ, for your information and for others, the Bible says this about thithing, not the false preaching that you and many have been told.
Does God Need Your Tithe? Copy and show this to you religeous leader
Have you ever been in a Christian meeting where they share about giving and maybe even mention the word tithe? Did you ever feel guilty about not giving to the collection plate passed around? Maybe you are even familiar with the following verse in Malachi?
Malachi 3:8 “Will a man rob God? Yet ye have robbed me. But ye say, Wherein have we robbed thee? In tithes and offerings.”
Now, depending on how you were raised, or what group or denomination you are in, there are many different perspectives on this verse. But I think more important than what another man’s perspective of what God said, or even my own, I think it is most important to go back to the source. The one who gave this message to Malachi in the first place. Why was it given? Why would they or even possibly us be robbing God for not giving tithes and offerings? Why would God need our tithes? What was the purpose for Malachi saying this anyways? Some discount his words by saying they are in the Old Testament citing administrational differences and therefore do not apply. But then in the same breath some denounce the law, they raise up a similar one concerning giving.
Among some of the things today in Christianity that no longer show God’s true heart, I believe the tithe is one of these practices and teachings that has become far removed from its purpose. Hopefully this study will start to unravel some of the “worldly” ideas that plague this once godly and loving act and answer some of the questions that people could have.
As with anything that is truly godly, that is, anything that God has his hands in should always share and show forth His nature. In the past we have looked at some of the basics behind God’s nature, of which we can never fully understand since God is much larger than us, but what we do know is that He is a God of love, and a God of light. A God of care and perfection whose judgments are always righteous. And it would only make sense that His ways will show that.
When our Lord Jesus summed up the law and the prophets into two commandments, he said to love the Lord your God with all your heart, soul, and mind, and the other was to love you neighbor as yourself. So if there is anything we can know about the giving of the biblical tithe, it’s first that it was an act of love.
Of course, before we look too deep into scripture, it’s first important to be reminded of what the actual word tithe means. Without that, we can get lost in the sea of religious connotations. Just as the words prayer, baptize, faith, God, and even salvation have become so religiously charged with certain theological mis-understandings, they tend to lose their true meaning in exchange for something very narrow and without much heart.
As many already know, the word “tithe” just means “tenth”. So it would be just as correct to say ‘I gave the waitress a tithe of the bill’ as it is to say ‘I gave a tithe of my income to the church’. There is no “theological” control of how the word is used in the Bible, only in how it has progressed to its current day usage. And therefore it is important that when you see the word ‘tithe’ in the scriptures, you remind yourself that it only means ‘tenth’, because there are many ‘tenth’s’ mentioned in the Bible.
As an example of this, you can look at Ezekiel 45:10ff where God explains their system used for measuring, just as a school teacher explained to you when you were young how to measure gallons and quarts and grams and liters. But in the Israelite’s day, it was an ephah and baths and homers….
Ezekiel 45:10 Ye shall have just balances, and a just ephah, and a just bath. The ephah and the bath shall be of one measure, that the bath may contain the tenth(tithe) part of an homer, and the ephah the tenth(tithe) part of an homer: the measure thereof shall be after the homer.. And the shekel shall be twenty gerahs: twenty shekels, five and twenty shekels, fifteen shekels, shall be your maneh.
The actual Hebrew word usually translated “tithe” is ‘ma-aser. The root of the word being ‘aser’ which means ‘ten’ or ‘tenth’. And you have the prefix ‘ma’ attached which acts as a preposition meaning ‘from’ or “out of”. Thus ‘ma-aser’ has the side meaning of the tenth part coming “out from” the whole portion. Rather than just the root word meaning ten.
Since the word itself only means a tenth, and can be concerning anything, then it is important to know the truth behind what people talk about when they narrowly define the word in Christian circles. Most of the time when people mention the ‘tithe’ they are referring to the Old Testament(Covenant)’s law whereby the Israelites were to give a tenth to the Levites, and while some churches continue with abiding by “some” of those laws, others do away with the specific laws only to institute something else in its place and label it as “sowing” or “giving”.
The problem with re-labeling the ‘tithe’ of the Israelite law to something else or even continuing with abiding under the law, is that some keep the same narrow understanding of the heart for which the original ‘tithe’ was given and implement their own man made purpose into it. And it is this heart and purpose that is so important to understand, since it is precisely this that God’s nature and purposes are shown to us! As mentioned before, anything of God, should show forth who He is. And the different tenths he had the Israelites give in the law show precisely God’s heart. And in a simple word, it shows God’s love. Just as the living word, Jesus Christ came to reveal who God was and make him known, so the words of God shared to the Israelites revealed who God was to those with eyes to see and ears to hear. Remember again, the purpose of the scriptures is to reveal to us who God is, and His nature, that ultimately we might come to Him and have a living and real relationship with Him. Therefore, it is important that we get as clear and precise picture that we possibly can.
The next thing we need to look at then are these laws given to the Israelites in the Old Covenant where they were suppose to give a tenth(tithe) for certain purposes. And one quickly notices when you do that, that there are more than one “tenth” the Israelites were suppose to give. In fact when all counted up there was a total of 33 1/3 that the Israelites ultimately were suppose to give. Of course one of those tenths wasn’t actually part of the Covenant law as much as it was a requirement that God warned them they would need to give if they did something. But now we’re jumping too far ahead.
Let’s begin by looking at one of the tenths or tithes mentioned in the Law.
Numbers 18:21-24 “And, behold, I have given the children of Levi all the tenth in Israel for an inheritance, for their service which they serve, even the service of the tabernacle of the congregation… But the Levites shall do the service of the tabernacle of the congregation, and they shall bear their iniquity: it shall be a statute for ever throughout your generations, that among the children of Israel they have no inheritance. But the tenths(tithes) of the children of Israel, which they offer as an heave offering unto the LORD, I have given to the Levites to inherit: therefore I have said unto them, Among the children of Israel they shall have no inheritance.”
The first thing to notice is that this tenth goes to the Levites. It is for their use for the very reason that they have no inheritance. They were to own no land, no house, no property. And their work was solely doing God’s work in the tabernacle. So they had no crops or animals for food. However, they were provided a place to live by the Israelites, but they were not to own it. So they had a need, a need for food and clothing. And this tenth was a way God provided for their specific need. Not their greed. It is clear proof of God’s love for those who live for Him, and that he will take care of them. But lets look at another location where this same ‘tenth’ or tithe is talked about to learn even a bit more.
Leviticus 27:30-33 “And all the tithe of the land, whether of the seed of the land, or of the fruit of the tree, is the LORD'S: it is holy unto the LORD. And if a man will at all redeem ought of his tithes, he shall add thereto the fifth part thereof. And concerning the tithe of the herd, or of the flock, even of whatsoever passeth under the rod, the tenth shall be holy unto the LORD. He shall not search whether it be good or bad, neither shall he change it: and if he change it at all, then both it and the change thereof shall be holy; it shall not be redeemed.”
Now, God is a little more specific here on what “tenth” is holy and to be given. First we see that the tenth of the seed of the land and the fruit of the trees are the Lord’s and are holy. But yet the Israelites are allowed to redeem these. Meaning they can buy them back with money. But if they are going to redeem these, then they must pay a fifth more for it. Meaning they were to give 20% more than what the “tithe” was worth. But the Israelite is also to give a tenth of their flock, only this part of the tithe is not redeemable. They cannot buy it back. But notice how important these things are to God. These are holy to God and to be given, and if they wanted to instead keep the food portion and buy it with money, they had to give more than what it’s worth! That should show us how much importance God had on it being something able to be used and meet the specific need for food. And the herd and flock was even more important since they were not only a source of food, but also a source of clothing from their skins. So God’s love and care can easily be seen in that he made a way for the Levites to be taken care of.
But as was mentioned before, there was more to be given than just this one tenth or tithe from the land. This first one was for the Levites to take care of their specific need, but now lets look at another tenth to be given.
Deuteronomy 14:22-27 “Thou shalt truly tithe all the increase of thy seed, that the field bringeth forth year by year. And thou shalt eat before the LORD thy God, in the place which he shall choose to place his name there, the tithe of thy corn, of thy wine, and of thine oil, and the firstlings of thy herds and of thy flocks; that thou mayest learn to fear the LORD thy God always. And if the way be too long for thee, so that thou art not able to carry it; or if the place be too far from thee, which the LORD thy God shall choose to set his name there, when the LORD thy God hath blessed thee: Then shalt thou turn it into money, and bind up the money in thine hand, and shalt go unto the place which the LORD thy God shall choose: And thou shalt bestow that money for whatsoever thy soul lusteth after, for oxen, or for sheep, or for wine, or for strong drink, or for whatsoever thy soul desireth: and thou shalt eat there before the LORD thy God, and thou shalt rejoice, thou, and thine household. And the Levite that is within thy gates; thou shalt not forsake him; for he hath no part nor inheritance with thee.”
As is plain to see, this is a completely different tithe or tenth than the previous holy tithe that is to be given to the Levites. There is no ability for redeeming a portion of it, and in fact, for some, they were to turn it into money, and then buy whatever they want to eat and drink, and then enjoy it with the rest of Israel at the place where God chose to place his name which was in Jerusalem. This is usually called the Festival tithe, as it was a yearly occasion to bring the tithes of the land to this place and enjoy it with everyone that was there. Twice God says they are to eat it there before the Lord. So it was once again to be something consumable. Something that could be eaten there and enjoyed, and the purpose given is “thou mayest learn to fear the Lord thy God always”. In other words, it was to be a reminder to them each year of God’s providence that they may fear and respect God, knowing it was Him who provides. And all the work that the Israelites put in each year was to be enjoyed. Again, showing God’s love and care to have them take the time to go to this holy place and relax and enjoy God’s prosperity given to them. But at the end, God says not to forget the Levite that has no inheritance, and to take care of his need also at this time.
But now let’s continue in this section of scripture and we’ll see another tenth or tithe.
Deuteronomy 14:28 – 29 “At the end of three years thou shalt bring forth all the tenth(tithe) of thine increase the same year, and shalt lay it up within thy gates: And the Levite, because he hath no part nor inheritance with thee, and the stranger, and the fatherless, and the widow, which are within thy gates, shall come, and shall eat and be satisfied; that the LORD thy God may bless thee in all the work of thine hand which thou doest.”
Very similar to the previous tithe or tenth, only this time, this tenth is only once every three years. And instead of it being taken to the place where God places his name, instead it is to eaten there in their gates, or in their city. This is called the local festival tithe. Since again it is once every three years and the tenth was to be eaten there in the city. Only this time, it is for the whole city mainly to take care of the needs of the local Levites, the fatherless and widows and strangers. All those who have a need, it is to take care of them that they may also rejoice and enjoy God’s providence. The purpose given that the Lord may bless the Israelites in all their work. So we see God’s heart is to take care of all those with needs, and as a reminder as well, of God’s love and care for all His children.
So far we have looked at the tenth to take care of the Levites need for food and clothing, the tenth to be taken and enjoyed at the place where God places his name and be reminded who it is who provides, and lastly, every third year a tenth to be brought before the city for all to enjoy and to take care of those who have need within the city. That comes to 20 1/3 of everything written in the law and each has its specific purpose of taking care of a specific need. But now there was one more tenth I think we should look at the Israelites eventually were going to give.
1 Samuel 8:4ff “Then all the elders of Israel gathered themselves together, and came to Samuel unto Ramah, And said unto him, Behold, thou art old, and thy sons walk not in thy ways: now make us a king to judge us like all the nations. But the thing displeased Samuel, when they said, Give us a king to judge us. And Samuel prayed unto the LORD.”
As the nation of Israel grew, and Samuel the prophet was getting old, the nation of Israel decided they wanted a king like the other nations. Rather than having God to judge and direct the nation of which his judgments and direction came from the prophet, they wanted a man to rule over them.
1 Samuel 8:7 “And the LORD said unto Samuel, Hearken unto the voice of the people in all that they say unto thee: for they have not rejected thee, but they have rejected me, that I should not reign over them.”
Only God knew what would happen when a man is placed to rule over his people, rather than himself. And he warned them ahead of time what would take place.
1 Samuel 8:9ff “Now therefore hearken unto their voice: howbeit yet protest solemnly unto them, and show them the manner of the king that shall reign over them… he will take your fields, and your vineyards, and your oliveyards, even the best of them, and give them to his servants. And he will take the tenth of your seed, and of your vineyards, and give to his officers, and to his servants. He will take the tenth of your sheep: and ye shall be his servants.”
This is the government tithe or tenth. Today it is in the form of a tax. But it was because the Israelites rejected God and chose to put a man in his place. Therefore a tenth or tithe of their possessions, God warned, were going to become the kings.
Until this time, the tenths the Israelites gave were to meet the specific needs within the congregation. And that was how God had desired and designed the nation of Israel to function. But as history points out, men usually gravitate to putting men in charge, rather than allowing God to lead. The result is instead of us taking care of one another, learning to live and love one another, and us trusting in God to feed and lead and direct us, we instead give man that honor and power and position. And ultimately that means the Israelites and even us are asked to give a tenth (or tithe) to the king, the government, or even a ministry, or organization where men reign and rule over where the money goes. That was not God’s heart since it was originally to show one another that God provides for us and we are to take care of those around us, rather than giving to a group that does it for you. Rather than God working in us to will and to do of His good pleasure (Philippians 2:13), we force God to work in someone else when it’s the entire nation that was suppose to help and share in the hands on giving!
So now let’s go back to the account in Malachi, and the verse mentioned at the beginning and see what God was saying.
Malachi 3:8ff “Will a man rob God? Yet ye have robbed me. But ye say, Wherein have we robbed thee? In tithes and offerings... Bring ye all the tithes into the storehouse, that there may be meat in mine house, and prove me now herewith, saith the LORD of hosts, if I will not open you the windows of heaven, and pour you out a blessing, that there shall not be room enough to receive it.”
God is very clear that the Israelites were to bring the tithes and offerings, and he is also very clear for what purpose. “That there may be meat in mine house!”. The Israelites had stopped meeting the needs of the Levites, who had nothing! The tithe was for their food and clothing., they needed the meat in God’s house to feed those working in God’s house! In other words, people who had a need were being ignored. The same thing God knew would happen when they went with having men rule. Since he would require a tenth of everything and decide and rule how things go, people stopped learning to take care of one another and left that up to the one in charge. They stopped looking out for those around them and expected the king to do it. And people got missed. God’s people! God’s people that had needs. And that is robbing God. Everything is already God’s. The earth is the Lords and the fullness thereof. So it is not that God needs your tithe. But He causes us to prosper that we might take care of not only our own family but those around us. But if we take and horde it for ourselves only, or expect those in charge to do it for us, we are taking it from God’s purpose to meet someone else’s purpose.
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By: GEEP on 9/29/2010 8:02AM
Eddie Long is the King of Sugar Daddies. Seriously, nobody likes hearing about this kind of stuff, but there is the saying "be careful how you treat people on the way up, because they might be the same people you meet on the way down." The arrogance, pomposity, self-righteousness of a lot of these "holy people" is hard to take, but it is not new. The Bishop should say definitively yes or no to what he has been accused of and come to some kind of resolution with the men. He won't but will much rather fall on his sword.
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By: Flying Solo 1010 on 9/29/2010 8:05AM
My concern is how a person who has homosexual tendencies himself can speak out so vehemently against homosexuals. As a married pastor who strongly preached against homosexuality to his flock and than cheated on his wife with young boys and lies to his flock of mesmerized followers his greatest sin is being a Lier.
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By: Booscilla on 9/29/2010 9:33AM
'I can only pray that his accusers are lying' ? What kind of monster are you, Boyce? You would pray that 4 men are lying? I do not think that would be a prayer God would hear.
Pray for the fruit, that God protect the fruit from being damaged. Many in that congregation maybe sincere about living a christian life. Choosing a church with 'glitz and glamour' might not have been wise. But some are there because of parents. Like these 4 boys were.
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By: pimpinperry2 on 9/29/2010 4:16PM
Why in the world would you be praying that these boys are lying? Are you in such denial that you don't know or understand that stuff like thsi goes on in the world.
Why aren't you praying for the boys and the loss of trust and innocense that the Bishop took away from them? You have your priorities backwards. You're probably one of the people who would send him money if he asked people to help cover his legal bills.
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By: MigThor on 9/29/2010 9:19AM
Flying Solo 1010, don't forget that this is what Pastors preach about, resisting temptation. The same could be said for why Whites such as Strom Thurmond made sure Blacks could be lynched for even looking at a White woman, how they firmly believed that the races shouldn't mix, when all the time, many of them had "tendencies" to have sex with Black women. Or Jim Baker who preached against adultery and look what he did. Just because one preaches against homosexuality doesn't mean they might not let Satan win and they go on and lust for homosexuals. Every day a temptation hits us and, thank God, we resist most of them.
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By: Toni on 9/29/2010 9:19AM
This really concerns me, It kinda solidifys these young men. It seems that what he is saying is; the Bishop would totally gain their trust from a young age, spoil them with gifts so that they fully felt that he cared and loved them, then by the time they where of legal age he could take ful advantage of them. If that is the case, he knew what to do to avoid the legal issue of messing with a minor. I know that it is diffucult for anyone to admitt that they were sexually taken advantage of, especialy a man. Who wants to be embarassed and have their manhood questioned. On the flip side maybe because the (Bishop) allowed these young men to be spoiled by lavish gifts and a certain way of living and then all of a sudden taken that way of living away i can see resentment and pain of abandonment. Either way i think that the (Bishop) has been exposed. It truly hate to believe that this has happend, but whats done in the dark comes to the light.
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By: Unknown on 9/29/2010 9:27AM
I can literally feel this man’s pain permeate through the camera. This young man is still tormented by the betrayal of Long. I can’t believe that a man of God is able to stand on the pulpit and lie (assuming he’s guilty, which I think he is). I pray for these young men and hope that this is something they can overcome. I also pray that this does not make them run from all churches; I hope they can trust again. They need prayer and healing, God bless them. The bible does say “what’s done in the dark shall come to light,” what makes Long think he can get away with this forever, this is a wake up call.
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By: Angie on 9/29/2010 9:28AM
God bless his family. I could not imagine what they are going through.
As far as "HIM", he has a lot of repenting to do if these allegations prove to be true. As far as Jamal, get some help now so that you can be a strong, smart, courageous brother. You have done nothing wrong...God heals, and blesses. Keep your faith, and all will be fine.
I do wonder, where were his parents when he was alone with Bishop? Couldn't they tell something was strange when Jamal came home? Were they in his life? He appears to be a very smart young man...God bless this mess!
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