
In the two-plus weeks since Don Lemon announced he is gay in tandem with the release of his new memoir, 'Transparent,' the CNN anchor has received both kudos and criticism.
The praise is geared toward the courage it took to openly embrace his homosexuality as a public figure. The criticism lies mainly with the language Lemon used in his announcement. Lemon told the 'New York Times', where the news of his announcement first broke: "It's quite different for an African-American male...It's about the worst thing you can be in black culture. You're taught you have to be a man; you have to be masculine. In the black community they think you can pray the gay away." Lemon also mentioned black women specifically, expressing his concern "that black women will say the same things [about me being gay] as they do about how black men should be dating black women."
We spoke to Lemon recently about those comments and his perspective on homosexuality in the black community, how life has changed since becoming an openly gay public figure and the women who still have a crush on him.
Jozen Cummings: How long did you know you were gay before you came out so publicly?
DL: I say in the book, I've always known I was gay. I think the exact quote in the book is, "Since I was knee high to a duck I've always known I was gay." I had crushes on boys - it wasn't in a sexual way, because kids aren't that way, they don't really know, they just know they have a crush on someone. I don't remember the first person I came out to, but I didn't come out to my mom until I was 30 years old.
JC: Did you ever get a sense others knew before you said anything?
DL: I didn't assume people knew or didn't know, but it's not something I ran around talking about. My colleagues at work who were closest to me or who I happened to have some sort of personal relationship with outside of work - they knew and we discussed it.
JC: How has life changed for you since you came out?
DL: Well, personally, it's been overwhelming. For a second there, it was like, 'Whoa, what's going on with my life?' Professionally, I'm not quite sure because it's only been a week and two days. You'll have to ask me in a year or three years or five years or 10 years, what actually happens. In some odd way [it has] turned out the exact opposite of what I thought. I thought I was doing something people ultimately would think I shouldn't be doing.
JC: In what ways did you think this was going to be a detriment?
DL: Anyone who has been in my position and who's gay and who's thought of coming out and either done it or not done it, has actually thought it was going to be detrimental to their career. That's why they haven't done it. Think about how many people you have out in broadcasting, in professional sports, in acting - people are worried about it. It's how our culture has been sort of groomed. And I have to say this, because I'm talking to you, aren't you a black journalist?
JC: Yes.
DL: So quite honestly, Jozen, there are people who are mad at me and say, "Oh you're throwing black people under the bus." No I'm not, I'm black, I live in the world as a black man, and I know how our culture thinks about homosexuality. You think about those things too as a black man, like, what are black people going to say about me, am I going to have the support from my base, which is black people, and if they turn their backs on me or they get upset with me, then what the heck am I going to do?
JC: Isn't it fair to say it's not just black people who have issues with homosexuality? When you came out, a lot of people read your remarks about the negative reactions anticipated from black women as somewhat of an attack.
DL: Black women are saying the same thing about me as they are saying about black men dating white women, I stand by that. All you have to do is read the blogs or go listen to the radio shows I've been on. When I've been on black radio shows [the subject of black women] inevitably comes up every single time. When I sit on white radio shows or have been interviewed by journalists who are not of color, it never comes up. So I know it's something that we need to talk about. I am a black person! Let's not forget that, and I know what it's like to be a black person, I know what our issues are. I'm not throwing anyone under the bus. I know white people have issues with homosexuality as well, but when you're looking at people who are out in the community and making a difference when it comes to gay issues, it's usually white people and white men - wealthy white men - who are on the forefront of that.
JC: But others have been supportive, have they not?
DL: I've been overwhelmingly surprised by the positive support in the African American community. People have come through and been amazing. I am grateful for that.
JC: Black women?
DL: You know what's funny? Women are like, "I don't care if you're gay, I still want to marry you. I can still fantasize, because I wasn't in a relationship with you before, so I'm going to keep my fantasy going." You should read my feed on Twitter or Facebook. I think women get it. People appreciate honesty and that's what I'm walking in.



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By: Debbe on 6/01/2011 1:31AM
@hallwf, yes, he is an inspiration to black men, but he is also an inspiration in all colors of men, and singling it out even more, he is also an inspiration to gay AND straight men. I love this guy, he is living his life honestly and he is a hardworking decent man, I love it that he speaks what he sees as truth and he makes no apologies or backs down on that. Anyway, I love him and his strength, his kindness, his honesty, his great influence in our society, he is someone to look up to. Oh, I am just a little tiny white girl in the world, and he is an inspiration to me too....
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By: Verie on 5/31/2011 3:48PM
God said judge not les ye be judged.......so keep it too yourself
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By: michelle on 6/01/2011 7:08PM
God also said, ROMANS 1:27 that is sin you will not make it to heaven living like this this is sin i am not judgeing i am just showing what the bible says the bible stands for Basic Instruction Before Leaving Earth. B-I-B-L-E we must by his instruction
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By: Ken on 5/31/2011 10:53PM
Here's what God really said,
Rom 1:24 Wherefore God also gave them up to uncleanness through the lusts of their own hearts, to dishonour their own bodies between themselves:
Rom 1:26 For this cause God gave them up unto vile affections: for even their women did change the natural use into that which is against nature:
Rom 1:27 And likewise also the men, leaving the natural use of the woman, burned in their lust one toward another; men with men working that which is unseemly, and receiving in themselves that recompence of their error which was meet.
Mat 7:1 Judge not, that ye be not judged.
Mat 7:2 For with what judgment ye judge, ye shall be judged: and with what measure ye mete, it shall be measured to you again.
It is not a matter of judgement to call Sin, Sin
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By: Matt on 5/31/2011 11:42PM
God says alot more than to not judge... He says in Matthew 7:20 "Wherefore by their fruits ye shall know them."... If they are a sinner than thats what they are... Why is he a sinner? God says in Leviticus 20:13 " If a man also lie with mankind, as he lieth with a woman, both of them have committed an abomination: they shall surely be put to death; their blood shall be upon them." Romans 1:27 says, "And likewise also the men, leaving the natural use of the woman, burned in their lust one toward another; men with men working that which is unseemly, and receiving in themselves that recompence of their error which was meet." With people saying that being gay is okay, they are affecting the children and the Bible says in Matthew 18:6 But whoso shall offend one of these little ones which believe in me, it were better for him that a millstone were hanged about his neck, and that he were drowned in the depth of the sea." So why do Christians care so much about what other people are doing or saying, because in Revelation 3:16 "So then because thou art lukewarm, and neither cold nor hot, I will spue thee out of my mouth." We care because christians are the light of the world and the salt of the earth, so we need to spread the truth.
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By: Ggeorgio1 on 5/31/2011 11:18PM
GOD, also said that, HOMOSEXUALITY IS A SIN!!! If you have a problem with that, feel free to take your aruguement to him... It appears you are in desperate need of a conversation with Him!!!!
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By: nicole on 6/01/2011 1:44AM
why does he have to keep it to himself? why can't he speak his mind?
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By: Debbe on 6/01/2011 1:42AM
I agree Verie! I truly believe that we are spending way too much time judging others....and also being heartless. I am happy for Don, admire him for his strength to come out and for those who think they do not want you to flaunt your sexuality, a gay person is not flaunting nothing when they come out, they are trying to be a honest person and not feel like they have a secret....people who have breast cancer comes out to speak of it, their issue, people who overcame panic attacks speak of their issue, why cant gay people? It isnt flaunting anything.....hope those ignorant minds wont cross over to heaven being like that ewwww, please learn something and have a heart......heaven needs more of them.
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By: Paula on 6/01/2011 2:53PM
1 Corinthians 5:12-13.
12 It isn’t my responsibility to judge outsiders, but it certainly is your responsibility to judge those inside the church who are sinning. 13 God will judge those on the outside; but as the Scriptures say, “You must remove the evil person from among you.”[a] God's word is true!
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By: lifewithoutlimits on 6/02/2011 12:31PM
Why the comment about black women? Black women didn't make him gay, nor do they all feel that black men should exclusively date black women. For Lemon to be touted as a reporter, he sure is stereotypical and not very astute. Let him suck all the cock he wants...
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