
In the two-plus weeks since Don Lemon announced he is gay in tandem with the release of his new memoir, 'Transparent,' the CNN anchor has received both kudos and criticism.
The praise is geared toward the courage it took to openly embrace his homosexuality as a public figure. The criticism lies mainly with the language Lemon used in his announcement. Lemon told the 'New York Times', where the news of his announcement first broke: "It's quite different for an African-American male...It's about the worst thing you can be in black culture. You're taught you have to be a man; you have to be masculine. In the black community they think you can pray the gay away." Lemon also mentioned black women specifically, expressing his concern "that black women will say the same things [about me being gay] as they do about how black men should be dating black women."
We spoke to Lemon recently about those comments and his perspective on homosexuality in the black community, how life has changed since becoming an openly gay public figure and the women who still have a crush on him.
Jozen Cummings: How long did you know you were gay before you came out so publicly?
DL: I say in the book, I've always known I was gay. I think the exact quote in the book is, "Since I was knee high to a duck I've always known I was gay." I had crushes on boys - it wasn't in a sexual way, because kids aren't that way, they don't really know, they just know they have a crush on someone. I don't remember the first person I came out to, but I didn't come out to my mom until I was 30 years old.
JC: Did you ever get a sense others knew before you said anything?
DL: I didn't assume people knew or didn't know, but it's not something I ran around talking about. My colleagues at work who were closest to me or who I happened to have some sort of personal relationship with outside of work - they knew and we discussed it.
JC: How has life changed for you since you came out?
DL: Well, personally, it's been overwhelming. For a second there, it was like, 'Whoa, what's going on with my life?' Professionally, I'm not quite sure because it's only been a week and two days. You'll have to ask me in a year or three years or five years or 10 years, what actually happens. In some odd way [it has] turned out the exact opposite of what I thought. I thought I was doing something people ultimately would think I shouldn't be doing.
JC: In what ways did you think this was going to be a detriment?
DL: Anyone who has been in my position and who's gay and who's thought of coming out and either done it or not done it, has actually thought it was going to be detrimental to their career. That's why they haven't done it. Think about how many people you have out in broadcasting, in professional sports, in acting - people are worried about it. It's how our culture has been sort of groomed. And I have to say this, because I'm talking to you, aren't you a black journalist?
JC: Yes.
DL: So quite honestly, Jozen, there are people who are mad at me and say, "Oh you're throwing black people under the bus." No I'm not, I'm black, I live in the world as a black man, and I know how our culture thinks about homosexuality. You think about those things too as a black man, like, what are black people going to say about me, am I going to have the support from my base, which is black people, and if they turn their backs on me or they get upset with me, then what the heck am I going to do?
JC: Isn't it fair to say it's not just black people who have issues with homosexuality? When you came out, a lot of people read your remarks about the negative reactions anticipated from black women as somewhat of an attack.
DL: Black women are saying the same thing about me as they are saying about black men dating white women, I stand by that. All you have to do is read the blogs or go listen to the radio shows I've been on. When I've been on black radio shows [the subject of black women] inevitably comes up every single time. When I sit on white radio shows or have been interviewed by journalists who are not of color, it never comes up. So I know it's something that we need to talk about. I am a black person! Let's not forget that, and I know what it's like to be a black person, I know what our issues are. I'm not throwing anyone under the bus. I know white people have issues with homosexuality as well, but when you're looking at people who are out in the community and making a difference when it comes to gay issues, it's usually white people and white men - wealthy white men - who are on the forefront of that.
JC: But others have been supportive, have they not?
DL: I've been overwhelmingly surprised by the positive support in the African American community. People have come through and been amazing. I am grateful for that.
JC: Black women?
DL: You know what's funny? Women are like, "I don't care if you're gay, I still want to marry you. I can still fantasize, because I wasn't in a relationship with you before, so I'm going to keep my fantasy going." You should read my feed on Twitter or Facebook. I think women get it. People appreciate honesty and that's what I'm walking in.



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By: JOANNA on 5/31/2011 9:39PM
njen........
What planet do you live on?
They all read from a script.
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By: njeri on 5/31/2011 5:42PM
Inspiration? To say you are gay. The man down the street said he was gay, the boy across town said he was gay, and the guy who works for the telephone company said he was gay.
Enlighten me.
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By: Debbe on 6/01/2011 2:02AM
@njeri, I will enlighten you. The person down the street is not famous...all the people you mentioned are not on the news. Don had a lot to lose, that tells me that is a brave me, and a man who cares about how he lives, he wants no secrets. Sadly our society FORCES gay people to stay in the closet because someone like YOU will be on here saying what is the big deal. Go have a child or close relative that is gay and go talk to them, you will THEN see what the big deal is, it is a very very big deal sadly, and all because people like you are making it one when it should not be....but it is....cant you see....?
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By: Margaret Ferrer on 5/31/2011 6:23PM
Don is a damn good reporter,no one can take that away from him njeri,So lets not go there.Now when I see Don on CNN all I can think of is he's gay. He went from reporting the news to becoming the news.We do not need to know what you are doing when you are not on CNN.Remember Don you put that cloud over your own head,and it will rain.
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By: lam on 5/31/2011 6:32PM
So much going on in the world --- God will judge as He is doing now. Wonder why so many tornadoes, floods, hurricanes, fires, etc. Just a matter of time! Watch this summer --- it is going to be so hot that large number people may be affected by it. When God get tired of this mess -- He's coming. Read about Sodom and Gomorrah! PRAY FOLKS!
lam
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By: tyrebitre on 5/31/2011 8:07PM
So, Iam, all those tornadoes were caused because of guys honking on another guy's Bobo ? Then why did the tornadoes kill indiscriminately ? BTW: nobody is "coming" : it's been almost 2000 years now. THINK FOLKS!
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By: Anita Howard on 6/01/2011 1:53AM
So happy you told the truth! This country is under judgement! Good looking men wanting to sodomize each other and don't have any interest in a pretty woman!! I don't care what color you are either! God made men for women and women for men! I think lots of homo men are that way because of their fathers, lack of and lesbians because many have been sexually abused as children. They need Jesus to help them and get the devil out of their lives! I feel sorry for alot of them. But that lifestyle is not something to be proud of! The Bible says "In the last days it shall be as Sodom and Gommorrah", we're almost there folks! Jesus come back!!
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By: Gail on 5/31/2011 6:40PM
I am a Christian and I know what the Bible says about Homosexuality. And it says the same exact thing about hate for God, lying, cheating, killing, blaspheme, taking the Lord's name in vain....etc. etc. etc.
But I have tolerance for the "human". Don Lemon is a human before he's anything else. Let God deal with his sin just like He's going to deal with your sin and mine.
I like Don Lemon and I like watching him bring the news. And he sure is good to the eyes..lol..If he needed to be open about who he is...then so what...what's it to you.
These things will continue to happen, because we're in the end times. We don't have a heaven or a hell to put him in.
Let the man be.
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By: millie on 5/31/2011 6:43PM
I am so very tired of all this "comin out"! Who really cares. Some things should be kept to your own discretion---and that doesn't mean the "Black community" is saying don't ask don't tell. Until you have talked to ALL of the Black community and ALL Black women you can't speak for us all.
Bottom line, hetersexuals don't go around spuing their sexual preferences in every publication, magazine and book they write. So, if you really have something to write about, just write it and stop commentating on it! I never heard Ed Bradley make an announcement about his preference.
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By: Steve on 5/31/2011 10:47PM
Oh yeah? Hetrosexuals are ALWAYS spuing their sexuality. See all those love stories and movies where straights are kissing and marrying, sitting on each other's laps and even lying in bed together half or else totally naked? Breeding and breeding and showing off their rugrats and calling it a "blessing" for their recklessness to now overpopulate the world. So NOT keeping it to themselves VERY OBVIOUSLY! How blind and foolish can one be. Let the man proclaim he's gay so he can get some love for himself. He's a minority but his love gives no harm! Besides that being gay is not a preference but an awareness within an individual. Know the world with depth of view and you'll evolve beyond those nesting within the sect of "fundamental" brainpower!
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